Last night, Rosalyn slammed Vivian’s arm in a door. Repeatedly. While laughing.
Even have a moment where you’re utterly horrified and you wonder if your child is turning into a monster? I had that moment last night. She seemed to enjoy hurting Vivian. Even when I was there and holding the door she kept trying to push it, giggling all the way. When I lost my shit and roared for her to get her ass in her bed RIGHTTHISMINUTE she seemed confused at getting in trouble.
This is just 3, right?
Vivian was never mean to Rosalyn. Ok, once, a week after Rosalyn was born, Vivian hauled off and slapped her in the head, but that was it. She’s always been a pretty damn good sister. Vivian is kind, and (mostly) gentle and shares and plays with her sister. Rosalyn….takes delight in tormenting Vivian. Taking her things, running off with them. While I recognize the need to learn to share, I wish Vivian would hold her ground sometimes. Even when I try to get Rosalyn to understand everything isn’t hers, and nearly get her to the point where she grasps it, Vivian relents and gives her whatever it is she wants.
You can almost hear the sly grin forming when this happens.
My brother is 6ish years older than me, so we were never close as children, never really hung out. So I don’t really get the dynamic of what’s going on between these two. Seeing Rosalyn enjoying smashing the door into Vivian was a bit….disturbing at best. But it’s normal, right?
Spin Me I Pulsate 
When my younger cousin (we were raised together, and closer to siblings than cousins) was a baby, I used to get perverse thrill poking at her while she was asleep until she woke up crying, then I’d scream, “Grandma! The baby’s awake!”
I also liked to pop balloons behind her head, making her jump.
I didn’t grow up to be a terribly malicious adult.
I’ve told you about all the shit I used to do to torment my sister right? it’s normal dear. Viv stands up to her a lot of the time too, she just doesn’t do it as much when you’re around for some reason.
Yep, normal. Morgan is always pushing, grabbing, poking and generally terrorizing Emily.
She will, just for kicks I swear, be running by Emily on the way to do something else and knock her over. When asked why, she says “because she was there”.
I was baffled as well with the behavior, as I am an only child. My youngest cousin is 13 years younger than me. I asked the MIL and she told me lovely stories of Glen being tortured by his eldest sister. They’re mostly normal.
Obviously, you are right to correct her. But it is normal sibling behavior. Em is an absolute nightmare sometimes, to both older and younger siblings. She’s 3 as well.
ok good. I have no basis for comparison, and the look on Rosalyn’s face freaked me out. 🙂
Just joining the chorus, totally normal. You’ve already heard some things about my darling sister (I really hope she never follows me here!) and then when the other sister and brother came along it WW3. We were very rough with each other a lot of the time.
We haven’t turned into homicidal maniacs.
Although reading about the adventures of Viv and Rosie lately is giving me flashbacks. Not all of them are comfortable. 🙂
WOW! Sounds like a typical day with Patience (6) and Persistence (3). Like you said, some days I want to eat glass. So I’m gong to say it’s common and typical. Largely because I HATE the word normal.
Yep, normal. My dad is one of eight and the stories they tell about tormenting their youngest brother! None’s a psycho. The youngest is a tough nut. He’d have to be to chose to play goalie, right? (He won the state championship in HS.)
Jamie tries to do the same thing to us.
Speaking of “normal” I mentioned on the co-sleeping post how much my sis and I liked sharing a bed. I did NOT mention the time she broke my thumb by bending it waaaay back until it snapped, or all the times we called each other “bitch” when mom wasn’t home to yell at us for swearing, or for all of the hair-pulling and kicking that happened daily. John’s brother used to hold him down and fart on his head, tickle him until he cried, dangle spit over his face and then suck it back up, and gave him horrible wedgies. So, yeah, we all generally grow up and get along eventually.
It’s horrific in this house and my older is 9 and won’t hold her own. the younger is 3 and knows how to push some buttons. I think it’s a girl thing and a birth order thing. But it all send s me for a loop I find the vast differences between them makes it hard to parent/ discipline with consistency.
I love Patience and Persistence sums it up perfectly!!!!
Common and typical, I suppose — but I still dearly resent some of the things brother and sister did to me, and we have yet to become close, although we are polite most of the time. Do what you can to proclaim that it is simply unacceptable.