um, er…trying to not freak out.

17 Oct

So let’s say there’s this woman who has two kids. She had a tubal ligation and an endometrial ablation over a year ago. She’s been told she can’t get pregnant.

She’s 3 days or so late on her period. Let’s say she’s NEVER late, and that even if she can’t track the date exactly, she knows about when it should arrive. And it hasn’t.

Sure, three days aren’t much to shake a stick at, but she has never EVER been late before. The only other times she’s missed a period is when she was pregnant. Her body is that trustworthy.

Say what you will, there is always the chance that she could have an etopic pregnancy, or a very very small chance of having a natural pregnancy despite the thinned uterine wall. There is always a chance.

And let’s say that this chick is freaking out, and her doctor is on leave until December. What should she do? She knows that it also might be the drugs she’s on, but she doubts it, since she was on one for three months without an issue, and just switched to a new one that shouldn’t have an effects in this regard whatsoever.

So she’s worried. Not really really worried, but still…..

14 Responses to “um, er…trying to not freak out.”

  1. Gwen October 17, 2007 at 12:07 pm #

    Umm, the chick should take a pgcy test? That’s the quickest way to find out one way or another, yes?

  2. thordora October 17, 2007 at 12:25 pm #

    I know, that’s the easy part. The harder part is worrying about all the other things that could be wrong.

  3. Bon October 17, 2007 at 12:53 pm #

    mmm…lateness. wretched unexpected lateness, that secret stressor … i wonder if it might be THE universal experience amongst modern women of a certain age.

    about you, go pee on a stick already. if you’re three days late, then the + or – will be pretty conclusive, i would think, and then you can put us – i mean you! – out of the misery of waiting.

    more seriously, as someone who spent a significant portion of my life being late, i will say that there are many not-too-serious reasons that it can suddenly occur. one of which is related to the hormonal effects of glucose tolerance/intolerance, which was the case with me. while i don’t formally have PCOS, which is the full-blown syndrome effect of glucose and hormones mixing, i’m on the spectrum and have been since i was 16. it can, however, onset later in life, particularly with weight gain.

    so pee on a stick, will ya? and then get in touch and if further blathering on the above subject by moi would be useful to you, i will happily oblige.

  4. Cori October 17, 2007 at 1:13 pm #

    Take a test! Being late sucks. My cycle is fucked up since Aviva weaned, so I went 7 weeks between periods during my last cycle. I took a test every few days after week 5. All negative. Perhaps it’s the change in meds?

    Sending you calm thoughts!

  5. thordora October 17, 2007 at 1:21 pm #

    If I was normally inconsistant, I wouldn’t be worried. But I’m not.

    I’m gonna give it a few more days. Like I told Mogo, I only worry because if I AM, it could be very dangerous….

  6. Kimberly October 17, 2007 at 1:23 pm #

    She should go pee on a stick and then come back and tell the internet what the resuolt was. Hypothetically, of course.

  7. Eden October 17, 2007 at 1:32 pm #

    Yap. She should shake a stick at it. That’s step 1. Step 1 will have one of two results: positive or negative. If it’s positive, she moves on to the next step (worry, concern, joy, whatever). If it’s negative, she should breathe a sigh of relief (from what it sounds) and give it another good week. If the crimson tide isn’t in, start again with step 1.

    FWIW, I was very very late not too long after Holden was born. I most definitely did not want a stick to turn blue. I got a test anyway and was very relieved when it didn’t. Period came a few days after the test. It happens.

  8. bine October 17, 2007 at 1:35 pm #

    hmmm, is there any chance that that last drug she took just before switching to the new one took three months to develop that side effect? i would strongly advise her to take a test soon if she’s worried about it, just for her peace of mind.

  9. Netter October 17, 2007 at 2:15 pm #

    Consensus is pee on the stick, then the woman will have more information so she’ll know which way to turn her worry. Just because the woman was on a similar drug, or a similar class of drugs, doesn’t mean they’d all work the same way.

  10. Jen October 17, 2007 at 2:57 pm #

    yup, pee on the stick. Worry is always best handled when it can be focused in a particular direction.
    And remember that when you’re thinking about pregnant folks a lot, it can influence what your brain decides to run away with. The last time I was late and (not pregnant), my SIL, step SIL and C’s cousin had all recently announced pregnancies.

  11. radical mama October 17, 2007 at 3:43 pm #

    Yes, take the test. And like Bine said, couldn’t this be a side effect of a medication? I could never wait to take a test. I always freaked out if I was a day late, and I am very regular as well.

  12. Freya October 17, 2007 at 5:34 pm #

    Not sure how, but my periods were pretty wacked (more so than usual) every time after I started up on Lithium. Had to do with the dehydration, body adjusting, and so on. I know it doesn’t happen with everyone, but thought I’d throw that out there.

  13. ann adams October 17, 2007 at 5:48 pm #

    This hypothetical person should pee on the stick before she starts worrying about what might or might not happen.

    Anything can cause a period to be late, not matter how regular that person has always been.

  14. cerebralmum October 17, 2007 at 9:34 pm #

    Peeing on the stick is just the start. If the stick is positive, “she” will just move on to worrying about the next issue. Perhaps “her” doctor’s office can recommend another doctor who is available before December so she can be examined, get the necessary blood tests, etc… Seeing your own doctor who is familiar with you and your medical history is always better, but this is a kind of time sensitive thing, so “she” might have to be a bit flexible.

    Incidentally, “she” sounds kind of excited by the possibility, as much as freaked out.

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