“How do i handle people who don’t like me”

20 Jun

Fuck em, that’s how. ๐Ÿ™‚

I wish it was that easy. And in a way it is.

I’m not exactly easy to get along with in real life. I’m a snotty bitch, I put a LOT of stock in manners, sincerity, and honesty. I need the people around me to be themselves, instead of some construct they’ve created. I need people who can challenge my brain in good ways, people not afraid to bitch my head off. (Thinking of you on that one Stace) I need REAL people.

Needless to say, these requirements generally leave me a little…shorthanded in the friends department. Not that I much care. I’m essentially someone without the need for social contact beyond the odd outing. Even that drains me. I’ve never been much for people, unless I’m inebriated in some way, shape or form. Which explains most of high school actually. I don’t need people around me, and would mostly be quite happy if nearly everyone around me disappeared. People act like morons, and generally are happy to isolate themselves from anything important. I can’t stand that. Why be alive if you aren’t trying to further your knowledge or wisdom?

People won’t like you. Possibly even for reasons that have nothing to do with you. There are people I don’t like because I personally feel that the way they live isn’t appropriate for their age. There are people I don’t like because they never shut.the.fuck.up. There are people I don’t like because they are stupid, and would cut off their nose to spite their face. There are people I don’t like because I feel they are hypocritical, their views not matching their actions.

Many people don’t like me. And I’m fine with that. Who wants to belong to a club that doesn’t want you? I’m old enough to not give two shits, to move on and do something better with my time.

But maybe you’re 14, and stuck in some shitty school with no friends, or you have friends but other people make it clear that they don’t like you. In which case, my advice is simple. Fight the fuck back. Hand their ass to them verbally or physically. Stand up and make yourself known. You haven’t done anything, and if these other kids/people haven’t realized that they can keep their dislikes to themselves, they needย a simpleย lesson.

I know, I know-violence is wrong. But you know what? That’s all some people listen to. And I’ve been that girl who was disliked and bullied for no good reason, and now? I wish I would have turned around and smashed that chick in the face a few times. But I’m stronger now than I was then.

At the end of the day, it’s also up to you to decide how much time and energy you want to expend caring about what they think. Do you really care? Do you really want to be liked by everyone? Tomatoes are wonderful, but I don’t like them. Nothing against tomatoes-they just aren’t my thing. And it’s like that with people. I do know many good people who I just can’t stand. Which is ok. Nowhere does it say you have to like everyone.

Be kind, be yourself, and live your life. Stay true to who YOU are, and everything else will fall into place.

45 Responses to ““How do i handle people who don’t like me””

  1. karenrani June 20, 2007 at 9:34 am #

    I like your honesty. I’m not really a huge fan of people in general either. There are a lot of tomatoes out there.

  2. Flo June 20, 2007 at 9:49 am #

    I quite agree dude! Awesome post!

  3. Jennnifer June 20, 2007 at 10:35 am #

    It’s hard though. I get where this person may be coming from.

    We all want to be liked. And while I “get” that people may not like me for whatever reason, it’s still hard not to think “well, what is wrong with ME then”. I attribute it to having the mother that I had, I mean if my own mother couldn’t love me let alone like me then why would I expect others to?

    It’s hard because when other people may not “like” you, but tolerate you because they have to (work etc) you internalize it and start to obsess.

    For instance, someone dropped my blog from their bloglines. I keep having this mental conversation as to why…did I say something horrible? Did I offend them? Am I boring? Am I stupid? The rational part of me says “who cares, maybe they were getting rid of blogs they don’t read…whatever”

    But the tiny insecure little voice in my head won’t shut the fuck up.

  4. thordora June 20, 2007 at 10:49 am #

    I have that little paranoid person in my brain, but I try to tie them to the railroad tracks most of the time, because I know I really don’t give two craps about most other people. I know perfectly why I’m not always likeable, and I’ve come to grips with that.

    However, if people don’t recognize the sheer awesomeness that is me, it’s THEIR bad, not mine. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Nat June 20, 2007 at 12:26 pm #

    I don’t find you hard to get along with. I dig you.

    And most the people that irritate you, would irritate ANYONE. ๐Ÿ˜‰ So it’s all good. :p

  6. thordora June 20, 2007 at 12:31 pm #

    Many people irritate me. I just don’t talk about it cause it makes me seem like, well, a right bitch.

    it’s all good though. I LIKE being a bitch. ๐Ÿ˜›

  7. bine June 20, 2007 at 3:49 pm #

    โ€œi am free of all prejudices. i hate everyone equally.โ€ w.c. fields

  8. thordora June 20, 2007 at 3:59 pm #

    I had that sticker on my binder in highschool. ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. bine June 20, 2007 at 4:07 pm #

    should have known … :-))

  10. Stu Mark June 21, 2007 at 11:25 am #

    I’m a big fan of “fuck ’em” – it’s simple, easy to apply, and finishes clean, leaving no bitter aftertaste.

  11. Idetrorce December 15, 2007 at 10:14 am #

    very interesting, but I don’t agree with you
    Idetrorce

  12. Rogo July 12, 2008 at 4:56 pm #

    If you come across this way in real life, I’m not surprised that people dislike you. Maybe if you go out of the way to see the value in someone else, they’ll do the same for you.

  13. Eric July 27, 2008 at 5:08 pm #

    Love it !! I’m a popular guy at my gym and people have come up to me because “I know everybody”,to which I respond,”no,I know the RIGHT people!”….
    Nevertheless,I acknowledge that we are surrounded by assholes and hypocrites,even though I sometimes am polite to people I don’t care for…I would rather call that charity.
    Not that I am something special,I am just myself and if people like me great,if they don’t care for me then they can become invisible.
    I like being liked and I like being disliked….Signs of a powerful personality and insecurities as well.

  14. JessO July 30, 2008 at 4:11 pm #

    I love it. There are so many fuckers out there, sometimes i just want to egg them all.

    http://redebony.blogspot.com

    add me and join me

  15. Cyndi August 13, 2008 at 10:41 am #

    This is a cool Blog…I find myself here because on a day to day basis i feel like the walls are closing in on me. I have fewer and fewer aquaintances. I have two jobs. At one i have almost everyone against me from since i stepped foot in the door because they believed i was a lesbian, i am…BFD! (big fu**^5% deal)
    I find i have little patience for ignorance and inconsideration…which does not leave many, sad to say, at least not at that job. I think i am in the wrong environments in which to be appreciated for. I always feel i’m so different. I have moral, manners, intelligence and street smarts.
    A flaw of mine is that because i don’t always feel comfortable to open up right away people wonder who i am and stay away. I don’t mind when they do because many times i don’t care to be bothered anyway (not good either because people can sense this).
    I like having a few select friends but when it gets to the point where i’m being ignored and disrepected by coworkers and peers i think i have a problem.
    It’s taking a toll on me. I’m soft spoken but when i get really pissed it all comes out…it’s the New Yorker in me.
    I need help…I want to better myself. I’m not sure if it’s me or if i’m so special and different that i’m way more selective with things and people.
    I’m a Virgo – extremely analytical and germaphobic…lol
    Anybody got a solution?

    Thanks!

  16. Cyndi's Mom August 13, 2008 at 1:10 pm #

    To Cyndi. Fuckem. You’re there to make a living.

  17. Cyndi August 13, 2008 at 3:40 pm #

    Thanks Mom!
    But I need to be able to build good relationships with thwe higher ups. Also most of my day is spend in these places. The least I could do is feel comfortable going and being there.
    Feel me ma??

  18. Cyndi's Mom August 14, 2008 at 8:40 am #

    Higher ups? So smile, get to work on time and keep to yourself. The HUs will notice.

  19. tio September 10, 2008 at 2:06 pm #

    Hey I feel ya, have the same problem working in the office at the mo they have organised a bash and invited everyone but me!!! Fuckers so rude and ignorant I always make an effort but at the end of the day my personality is firey and I was brought up by a Spanish man doesn’t bode to well with the classist gentile English folk. I am who I am I have had to put up with this all my life, not to sound big headed but I am also fairly attractive not model like but i get by. Sometimes I just don’t know what to do I can’t bring myself to kiss people’s ass i say it like it is and Im chatty but I suppose people just find me icy even though i love having friends and have a wide circle of friends from all over the world. I suppose you can’t get on with everyone. Peace and hugs to everyone here who goes through the same. Walt Disney had the same thing happen to him remember!! he got fired from countless jobs cos they said he was too out there-Its great to be a bit different

  20. Attrative Girlie October 18, 2008 at 9:33 am #

    Love my job for about a couple of weeks, then the rest of the yaer i was there, I tollorated everything else, people can be cruel, manipulate & spread lies about you, esp when they are Jealous…

    My Boss was easy to get along with at first, all the other girls were as bitchy as hell, after the boss got married he seemed to start being Cruel to everyone though!

    As alway’s Once apon a time the story starts off very well, everyones happy & having a good laugh at work, then someone gets stressed & the rest have to suffer!!!

    there was also alot of bullying amonst the workplace!

    I’d moved to a new town hopeing to better myself so I could set up home again with my Son after a terrible divorce!
    My job was very Important to me & I never once went outta my way to dress like a slut…still got labelled…which sucks!!

    anyway things were ok at first then as soon as they found out I knew & I mean only knew people In the enterainment business I became a slag, Groupie & to my knowledge I’d been sleeping with all these people which was utter bollox

    one woman was going outta her way to make me feel guilty for working there..cause her son was brick laying & couldn’t feed his wife family & kids, so would I drop my placement for him…I had to see the boss actually cause It was getting severe…that stopped then!

    But there was day’s It felt so awkward…Esp some morning you’ld arrive at work & be sent to Coventry unaware that you’ld even done anything, you just had to keep smiling with you head down into ya work!

    The Boss was abviously pissed off one day cause he flung into an outrage…slammed all the windows of the place & had a temper…which I found Intersting…cause I thought…deep down, I ain’t scared of ya!

    Before he got married , he’d asked me to be the stripper at his stag duo…needless to say I don’t do any of that! & he also tapped my arse as he was walking passed, me fella say’s I should have had him for sexial harrassement!

    I’t’s a real big shame..cause I tried hard to get on at that place, I can’t understand how people can be so cold!

    Also he owed me a wage & won’t come up with the goods when I left the placement…So my boyfriend came with me & we seen him face to face!

  21. Attrative Girlie October 18, 2008 at 9:42 am #

    Sorry about the spellings I noticed In the last message…but It was good to get all of this off my Chest!

    Unfortunely thanks to this hair brained Government copanies seem to be allowed to treat people like shit!

    Don’t know what It’s all coming to!

  22. Linsy December 3, 2008 at 9:06 am #

    I worked for a printing company for 15 years, started when i was just 16. I’m female. I was vulnerable as I had no family or friends. I worked with mostly men…….I dont think as myself as anything special but pretty much all the men, boys, married or not…tried it with me….I was in a relationship….ok not a good one….and had one child….did not stop them…but once they new i was not going to sleep with them…i was called ‘slut, slag,easy etc.’. Funny thing is I never went with any of them. Jokes would be made about me…I broke my big toe…It was joked that I did it on my bed post….this was said to a new guy that had only been there two days….within weeks he too was calling me names, had no respect for me and would take the piss out of me…..The same guy in the office said to one of my colleagues ‘dont it drive you mad looking at the 4 walls every day’, my colleague responded with in a take piss way ‘no, i have the lovely linsy to look at’ with a stupid smerk on his face….the guy walk out saying ‘i would rather stare at shit!’

    At Christmas parties everyone would bring their partner’s, wife, girlfriend, Every Christmas I got dirty looks of the wives. They would look over at my table, mumble something to who ever is on their table and laugh…..making it obvious….every year they would make me feel uncomfortable…I really had the last laugh as little did they know what their men were up to behind there backs! lol.

    I would be standing outside the building were I worked having a ciggarette and as I threw my butt, a customer came around the corner and it nearly hit him….I opologised and he was fine about it……we laughed about it as we came into the office and he mentioned to my colleague what just happened…..in front of me my colleague said….’oh she stands out there looking for punters’, i could not believe it. One minute I’m fine with this customer, the next I felt ashamed because of what this guy said….it was the fact that this customer could see he had no respect for me.

    Years later some colleges wife started work with us, she had only been here a few months…..she would walk thro our office and say good morning to everyone but me and it was really obvious!

    I was treated so bad, I had no support…..and they knew I had no support even outside work….people can be so cruel, especially if they know your on your own and vulnerable.

    No one knew at work but it made me very very ill. I was very depressed. I cried nearly every night for years, i would go into work the next day with eyes like golf balls! It was obvious to others that I had been crying. I suffered from panic attacts for nearly 10 while working for them….because I was on my own had no family or friends around me….there was no one to tell me I was ill. Looking back I was really really ill but just carried on….In the end at 30 years of age they sacked me with one days notice…..I of course sued them and won! But this treatment distroyed me.

    This is just a tiny example of my experience with people hating me.

    Women hate me too……I dont flirt…..I dont think I know it all……I listen to them…….I go out of my way to show them respect…….they show me no respect in return.

    I saw counsellors for years………….one told me ‘its the worst story she has ever heard’………

    I was rejected by my natural mother at the age of 4 months
    Rejected by my foster family at 14 years of age (after being sexualy, phisically and metally abused for 14 years)
    After being reunited with my natural mother at the age of 14 by the social services……I was rejected again from my natural mother, who threatened to slash my face.
    Thrown out of boarding school at 17 years of age, was given ยฃ35 to make my own way to London to find a childrens home that would keep me until I had a flat
    Rejected by my work place
    Rejected by all neighbours….which resulted in I got assulted on my own door step by a neighbour with all my neighbours watching (around 15), cheering on while they stood there and watched my 10 year old daughter watching helplessly while her mother was curled up in a ball on my driveway being punched and kicked in the head and back by 2 boys (aged around 20) and a woman (about 40, she accused me of calling her daughter names when it was her daughter of 14 bullying my daughter of 10)
    My daughter was raped at 14 by 3 guys.
    She was stabbed at school with a compass in the leg 6 times and made to go back to school and sit in the same class at the girl who did it.

    There are times I lay in bed and just pray that I have a heart attack, tell God, I’m ready. Thats how lonely one can get without friends and family!

    The hardest part when things go wrong in my life…..the advice is allways the same……..’you need your friends and family to be around you for support’………that is something that will never happen for me.

    So how to I handle people that dont like me……….I dont expect them to like me in the first place so there is no dissapointment for me. I don’t have to even get to know someone and they don’t like me. I don’t do anything wrong……but I still get hated.

    I moved around 3 years ago now……..I dont mix with anyone now……I don’t trust anyone at all……I will say hello to my neighbours…..but that it.

    I have totally withdrawn from society……I dont socialise anymore. I am in a very lonely world and the pain is unbearable…….I learn to cope with it…..

    • Nirvanasjourney June 1, 2009 at 1:06 am #

      Hello Linsy,

      I know that you posted your blog sometime ago but I recently read it and I feel as though, (few details here and there),you were writing about me! Anyway, I was wondering how you are doing now? I hope that you are doing well and I hope that you will post again soon.

      With regards

      Nirvana J

    • laney January 8, 2010 at 8:39 am #

      hi, only just discovered this site, was wondering how Linsy is, after reading her post it seemed to me a little similar to situations i’ve found myself in…although mine have been a lot less extreme.

      i was told recently that the way you were treated as a child greatly affects the way you live your adult life…ie, if you were rejected as a child, you will usually be attracted towards people/situations that are going to make you feel the same.

      but you don’t need to be, i don’t know how to break out of the bad cycle but there has to be a way, even to just be aware that that’s what is happening to you…

      i was recommended a book called ‘reinventing your life, how to break free from negative life patterns’….have started reading it but it’s tough to read, cos i know there is a lot of work to do…

      i’ve realised if people don’t like me then i shouldn’t hang around them…fuck’em…hanging around them damages my already crappy self-esteem…

      anyway, i hope you are in a better place now

      hugs from a grumpy old moo x

  23. Helen December 3, 2008 at 11:33 am #

    Excellent post, Thordora. I want to share one incident with you that goes along with your point above, about tomatoes and people:

    Just yesterday, I told my husband about a colleague that everyone else says is wonderful, but whom I just don’t like and don’t trust. I asked, “Am I wrong? So many other people like him.” My DH’s comment was, “Trust your instinct. It doesn’t matter if others like him; it matters what you think deep down. Besides, he may treat some people nicely and some people badly, based on how much power he thinks they have.”

    I really like his point about trusting your instinct – both about whom you like and who likes you. You know in your gut whom you should socialize with. And you are absolutely right about the point: “Who wants to belong in a club that doesn’t want you?”

  24. Jessica January 4, 2009 at 7:46 pm #

    Linsey
    That is heart breaking. I am not a therapist or anything so I don’t know what to say. Are you still getting therapy? I would say stay in therapy for some time if you haven’t and maybe join several online groups, blogs, etc. I am sorry for all of what you have endured. I don’t know what is wrong with people. Apparently many people are hurtful and the world unfair. Not something I am happy about. But am coming to this conclusion. Do you have any pets or anything? Maybe there is one out there that needs you to save it from lonliness? Sometimes I think they are little angels for people with hearts that suffer unkindness. To heal us.
    Jessica

  25. Jessica January 4, 2009 at 7:47 pm #

    I meant Linsy, my bad! That’s prettier too.

  26. Aussie Lady January 13, 2009 at 11:08 pm #

    Linsey,

    Your post ripped my heart inside and out. I’m so angry in fact that anybody could treat you so bad. I’m not religious but I think some people are just meant to suffer (there’s just people who are so liked and then there us us others who find it hard to find people who will like us). I can identify with some of the rejection you have experienced but my goodness people have been downright cruel to you. I think half the problem is that they don’ t see the real you. Like did any of them know the things you went through? I’m sure if they did they wouldn’t have treated you so bad. Maybe because you were being a loner they didn’t like that so they wanted to find out what you were really like. I think you are an extremely strong person to have taken all of this and not given up on life. I don’t even know you but I can truly say your post moved me in so many ways. I like you Linsey! I like you a whole lot and most of all I respect you because you are a survivor!!!! Hugs too you ๐Ÿ™‚

  27. Melissa February 10, 2009 at 11:52 pm #

    I think this post is great. The original one and most of the replies. i have such hard trouble with friends my whole life but I am the most honest sincere and giving person i know. The few trusted friends i do have would vouch that my heart is huge, but other people just like talking shit all the time and can’t handle anyone as real as me, so i lost a huge group of mates and now have only a couple left. But i love them. I wear my heart on my sleeve and have trusted people too many times and been fuc%ed over. But i get up again and smile, cos I love the way I am and will never be idiots like my ex-mates in order to fit in. I am the black sheep, and Im proud!

  28. Naty February 28, 2009 at 5:07 am #

    I disagree with the original answer to this post. If you go around bitter about people in your life with a fuck em anyways attitude then what difference can you make in this world. Why don’t we believe in one another? All everyone does is blindly follow the person who acts like they don’t give a damn, because everyone’s so damn afraid themselves they latch on to someone who “appears” strong. But the truth is, people like that that say they don’t need people, that say fuck everything and everyone, I’m just a bitch and it’s okay, are the most terrified of us all. Eveyrone needs and wants to be accepted and wants love. These types of people fear true intamacy(the unsexual kind) and true understanding with multiple people because then it puts them in a position of vulnerability, a place where they could HONESTLY be judged and maybe not accepted and it would shatter them.

    To this person I say, try, try to understand others, try to love your neighbor. It’s ten times as hard and it’s fucking scary, and people hate you for it ( I would know), bc nobody feels that they deserve the kindness or love of a stranger and they suspect you. But that’s when you can say who gives a damn, bc you don’t have your little bitch sheild on and you really tried and you believed in the good of humanity. Because the truth is, we’re all hurt and we all have our reasons. If we would all just quit worrying about ourselves and ask how the person next to us is doing, what a world it would be.

  29. Nadirani March 20, 2009 at 10:17 am #

    Linsy, your post broke my heart. It is absolutely unbelievable how cruel people can be-yet I have experienced it myself many times over. People love to gossip and talk crap about anyone who is different because it makes them feel better about themselves.
    I’m dealing with an issue now with people spreading rumours about me and warning people not to associate with me because I’m “crazy”-just because I like to wear fancy ethnic clothing. I love wearing Indian clothing and I’m not Indian-and people get all twisted because I just don’t wear Baby Phat and Apple Bottoms all the time. I’ve always been an individual, and trying to conform has always been an alien concept for me. I suppose I’m damned either way-damned if I try to fit in (wearing Urban fashions, listening to rap, talking street slang-which is not what I am interested in at all, but what is “expected” of an American Black person) and damned if I do my own thing by wearing my saris, listening to my techno and speaking proper English.
    Sometimes I have the attitude of “f*$& them, who needs em’?” but that little voice inside me won’t shut up with its “people don’t like you, you’re crazy, you’re a whore, etc…” Ultimately, I think we want everybody to like us, but with people being the way they are, it’s impossible. Like Bob Marley said, “You can’t please all the people all the time”, and you just have to accept the fact that at some point, someone isn’t going to like you. I mean, there were people who didn’t like Mother Theresa!!!
    But, there is someone out there who WILL like you-and the most important person you can have as a friend is yourself. (I know that sounds corny as hell, but it’s true) If you don’t see the value in yourself, who else will? (in the meantime, I’ll be your friend ๐Ÿ™‚

    It’s hard-I’m struggling with self love, and seeking therapy after years of mistreatment at the hands of bullies-but I think it’s a good idea to seek each other out for support. In school, my friends were all the other “losers”-the kids who were picked on because we were different.
    I agree with Naty’s post that things would be a lot better if we tried to interact with one another instead of shunning everybody-sometimes communication can totally turn things around (and sometimes it can’t-I have to keep it real ๐Ÿ™‚ but you don’t know if you don’t try.
    Thank you for creating this posting…it’s just what I needed ๐Ÿ™‚

  30. poppy May 30, 2009 at 4:17 pm #

    When i read about all of your experiences with these evil people it makes me even more sad but also guilty for feeling as lonely and worthless as i feel as my circumstances differ greatly.
    My situation should spell happiness but for some reason i am miserable and have been for 10 years. It all started when i was 13 i was very badly bullied. My own friends deicded one day to turn on me for no reason they couldnt give me one apart from calling me a rich bitch so i assumed it was to do with my priveledged upbringing. They got most of the year to write a paragraph on why and how much they hated me and would post this through my door so my mum would read them. They would also phone my mum up and give her abuse about having me as a daughter. I was forced to move schools and although my second school was far better i soon noticed that i was not good at interacting with other girls. I get on with boys fine, brilliantly but girls just seem to hate me from the word go. I am now at uni and was excited to think that i would meet new people but i havent.
    Nevertheless, i am still out-going and socialise with the few acquaintances i have but i dont feel they value me as a friend. I crave that valued feeling but i find that classist people are not always against the lesser off. I recently had to terminate 3 friendships as i realised they just hung around or put up with me but never included me or were happy for me. It was always be complimenting them and smiling and asking about them but no return gesture. I think the main problem is not being around people similar to me in lifestyle and outlook on life. I come across as extremely confident, happy, sporty and positive but inside i am so sad. I have never been to a therapist as im worried that the way im feeling is banal. Does anyone have any advice? This is the first time i have talked about my feelings as my parents brush it off. Please help.
    From a lonely 23 year old.x

    • Raghav Dangwal December 12, 2012 at 7:32 am #

      Poppy i share the same feeling…

    • Raghav Dangwal December 12, 2012 at 7:35 am #

      Poppy i share the exact same issue.Inside im sad,but i come out as being positive & sporty.An Avoidant Personality Disorder is what im sufferring with..Its hard to express myself in front of others,and even if i do,it comes out as quite inconsistent,vague and unpredictable.

      • jane anderson December 12, 2012 at 7:47 am #

        Things do get better. I have found happiness after years of confusion and unhappiness. You will to ๐Ÿ™‚ xx

  31. poppy May 30, 2009 at 4:19 pm #

    sorry i just had to get that out ๐Ÿ™‚

  32. Ana June 14, 2009 at 11:37 am #

    If you are a beautiful woman, you are more likely to be left out of social gatherings by other jealous women who realize every man wants to sleep with you and not them. And the men try to grab your ass, compounding the hatred further.

  33. Angelindisguise July 26, 2009 at 12:13 am #

    Touching and Heartfelt stories from all of you. I Must admit growing up for me was rather diffucult as well as I also dealt with severe bullying. Since I was little I was always somewhat the outsider looking in. I dealt with teasing, name calling, fights for no reasons, at least none that I would start.
    I was always taught that respect is deserved in all people, that you have love for your neighbors, and do to others as you want done to you. But I also learned growing up aside from that, not everyone is taught with that same wisdom. It took me some time to understand that cause I figured everyone should know this, its like common sense right? Boy was I wrong. I befriended everyone, I gave people the benefit of the doubt, I trusted more easily then others, and I returned no evil for evil.
    AND People distroyed my self esteem, manipulated me, talked behind my back nasty. I became a joke just for what I believed in which was to respect the very ones who inturn would hurt me.
    Because of the way people treated me, I lost my trust for people. I tend to over analyse everystep I make, and I was forced into social anxiety. I never once ate in the cafe when I was going to school. No school photos, proms, friends Nothing. I wanted to just slide by unnoticed and unremembered. Thats how bad people treated me.

    Took me years to cope cause I had dealt with this as a child. My family was in a mess and we were poor in and out of shelters. I was seperated from my mother when I was 4 and my father became a drug addict. 1 of my brothers murdered from people who didnt like my family. Ive been to 11 different schools and I hated life as a child. I’ve been molested and never spoke up about it in fear. Because of that I struggled with my sexuality as a teenager and I hated myself everyday for it.
    Im 21yrs old now and unlike most young men my age Im so different from them cause I grew up way too soon. I really do enjoy conseling cause Im able to fight off alot of demons I am dealing with. But let me tell you all.
    You can never change people period. PERIOD. Yeah this world is unfair. Yes people are treated horribly. Yes things are headed in the wrong direction. But…what dont kill you makes you stronger. You must believe that in these days.
    Your self worth is influenced by the way you think. The things you think is influenced by your feelings which comes from your experiences. You cant change what you’ve been threw. SO you cant dwell on the past negatively, rather you learn from it. You become stronger because of it. If you are going to change for the better then you have to change the way you think cause you cant change your past people.
    Sometimes our imperfect resonings will say the things I’ve gone thru was a curse, but trust me the antrosities and all that negitive things that hindered you will become a stepping stone for you if you allow it. Yeah I went through it but Im grateful. I may have stumbled but Im standing stronger then ever. Its gonna be alright trust me, I really was touched by your stories….Just when you think your alone you realize how wrong was I omg take care…..

    P.S. we all look for answers in life, the answer were looking for here is peace. Im not talking about peace in this wicked world Im talking about peace within our selves. They cant break you. Remember that and dont forget

  34. travis September 22, 2009 at 5:07 pm #

    i am an equal opportunity offender. that’s the way you gotta look at life

  35. Chris January 8, 2010 at 1:16 am #

    When I start a new job, everyone likes me, and want’s to be my friend, but as time goes by… people become to really hate me, they don’t say it to my face, but I sence it, and I was told today by someone on another shift, that people don’t like me, but he didn’t say who, or go into detail about what the reason was. I shower every day, I brush my teeth, and chew gum(so I don’t have Bad Breath), I don’t think I’m ugly, because they liked me when I started. I try to be sociable, but not too talkative, and I’m quiet when I don’t have any input into a conversation.
    This job I have is a really good paying job, and I might just loose it very soon(maybe as soon as next week).
    I’ve even had this problem when trying to make friends. I know that it’s got to be me, but no one is honest enough to tell me what the heck it is! I get so stressed out about this, that I have headaches, and problems sleeping. I’ve even seeked professional help, but they don’t see what I’m talking about. I live by myself, and really don’t have any friends, I can’t even hold a relationship, for the same reasons. I’m 52, and I’m tired of this, when I was younger, it didn’t bother me, and I was like other people, and didn’t give a rat’s (you know what!). Are people really that fake? And if they are, why do they get along with each other? If I died tomorrow from a heart attack, I want to be creamated, and just have my ashes dumped anywhere! And not let anyone know, cuz they wouldn’t care less!!!
    Why Me???

  36. Chris January 8, 2010 at 1:46 am #

    PS. I’m not controlling, I ask alot of questions, and I try to be as polite as I can; I’m not hostile towards anyone, because I just want to be liked, but I don’t try to be someone I’m not. I don’t talk ill of others, because I don’t know these people. I don’t try to be Mr. BIG, because I know I’m not!
    I’m Just CONFUSED!!!

  37. John Lu January 9, 2010 at 2:33 am #

    My wife of 26 years has filed for divorce. She is BP. She has been delusional and believes that I have a relationship with a man for the last 30 years. She started to have the episode in November 09. She’s taking medication but not the right dose as directed by the psychiatrist. How can I avoid this divorce even though she’s sickly doing it. Help please.

  38. CR March 12, 2010 at 5:02 pm #

    I have been that girl that people picked on for the heck off it. I so wish I had have done something about; anything more than hang my head and take it. I wish I could say that I never care if I find that someone does not like me but I do.

  39. Raghav Dangwal December 12, 2012 at 7:37 am #

    Its difficult for people to understand certain things…Poppy i dunno,but the pain remains..

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