I want to like my 4 year old, really…

26 May

ok, so she’s not exactly 4 yet, but since she would have been driving me nuts in my belly at this point in the pregnancy, she’s 4 to me.

Something had snapped in this child lately and I swear I’m about to sell her.

The world owes her something, and dammit, she’s gonna whine to get it.

She’ll cry, she’ll scream, she’ll screech and whine and shed a few opportunistic tears.

I’ll feel the need to slap her into next week. I won’t, despite the temptation. But the worst one is the waking up at night. Sweet crap, one of them has woken me up almost every single night this week. Last night Ros woke up screaming, inexplicably missing her diaper. Freaking out when I out a diaper back on her. Then Vivian woke up screaming because she couldn’t find her truck.

I was just like, you woke me up for a fucking truck?

Now she’s in Ros’s face, she who just woke up and is stumbling around like a drunk. I have to tell her 50 times not to do things, and she still needs to be pushed or pulled away from things. She just will NOT listen, and she’s driving me insane.

Yesterday was fun as well. She said she wanted to have a nap in our bed, so we said ok. Silence. Then thumping. We go upstairs to find some unsent Xmas presents opened with teeth, the chocolates strewn through the room. Thankfully she didn’t open the liquor filled ones. I don’t think she likes Jack Daniels.

She’s just…ARGH she’s so FOUR!

Suddenly, I can’t wait until she starts school…

12 Responses to “I want to like my 4 year old, really…”

  1. Mogo May 26, 2007 at 2:52 pm #

    I swear one of these days, probably sooner rather than later, she’s gonna get slapped into next week. I don’t normally like to handle things that way, but lately… she’s “cruisin’ for a bruisin'” as my dad used to put it

  2. pluckymama May 26, 2007 at 5:48 pm #

    Hmmm, not that I know anything about being the mother of a four year old but the Nannies on Nanny 911 get a lot out of consistent time outs. They seem to be clever to me. Millions of time outs a day is super annoying but they seem to really work for my son…have you been trying that? Remember you’re the boss, and at least she’s not bringing boys home yet.

  3. Kimberly May 26, 2007 at 7:08 pm #

    Yeah, the terrible twos really have nothing on the fucking fours. Shittiest age I’ve encountered so far. My condolences.

  4. allyo May 26, 2007 at 7:43 pm #

    I’ve never liked four year olds. Not looking forward to when I have one living with me.

  5. mercurial scribe May 27, 2007 at 1:56 am #

    While reading this post, i could only think of Kitty talking to Laurie (her daughter) on That 70s Show when she tells her “I love you…” and continues under her breath “because I have to…”


    She’s your kid. But please remember that love doesn’t always equate with like. Take marriage… you can love your hubbie to the ends of the earth… but sometimes, sometimes you seriously contemplate pushing that “til death do us part” thing by making him go first. That doesn’t negate your love, it just makes you HUMAN (as long as you don’t act on it, of course). It’s the same with your kids, especially when they’re disobedient and seemingly :twisted:. i only mention this because i’ve witnessed way too many mothers hating themselves for intensely disliking their screaming toddlers when that’s an entirely normal feeling and i don’t want you to be one of them. Love is a verb… you ARE a loving mother, you take care of your kids, nurturing and discipling them as appropriate. But that by no means always equates to liking them.

    Though i’m not a mother yet, i sooooo get this. You definitely have my sympathies.

  6. Bromac May 27, 2007 at 7:42 am #

    Sorry, man. I feel you. My not-quite 2yr old is suddenly all full of piss and vinegar. She’s got the devil in her. She was all sick and sweet for most of last week. She must have had fever-induced hallucinations while she was sick b/c now she thinks she owns this damn house and all she wants to do is whine. Aaaaaaah.

    Is there a full moon????
    Stay pateient Mam.

  7. Jennnifer May 27, 2007 at 6:04 pm #

    I’d be lying if I told you that I’ve never wanted to smack Rugrat into next week some days.

    The naughty chair works WONDERS, holy hell, it’s something we’ve recently started. The other thing is telling daddy. She starts to shake and begs me not to tell him. She loves him best. I sometimes wonder if it’s because I have those not so nice thoughts about her.

  8. Bon May 27, 2007 at 7:17 pm #

    perhaps i will just freeze-dry mine at this pleasant, charming eager-to-please age of thirteen months. yep. that sounds good.

    i mean, he’ll get laughed at in junior high, i suppose, for still wearing oshkosh and bibs…

    but man, older doesn’t sound better! you have my genuine sympathies. and i wish you luck…tell us what works. some of us are hanging on every word out here!

  9. thordora May 28, 2007 at 9:21 am #

    We’re trying time outs in the room. It was hard to be consistant with my Dad here since he;s, well, his a grandpa.

    Plus, I’m STILL fighting off whatever this is, and it’s kept me up the last two nights coughing and hacking, so my patience is about nil.

    I told her she can be mad, or sad, or whatever, but if she’s going to whine and cry, she can do it alone in her room, and she can only join the world once she has control over her feelings. The poor little thing is a tad overwhelmed with them right now.

    Older isn’t always better. Her sister is a jewel right now, for the most part. Which helps.

  10. Jennnifer May 28, 2007 at 10:53 am #

    Just so you know, we tried time outs in her room too, that didn’t work because she can play with the stuff in there. We ended up putting a chair in the corner in the hallway. She must face the corner for the entire time and no speaking. Usually about a minute in she starts crying and telling us she’s sorry, and she’ll never do it again. I feel like a total heel, but it works. If she starts the whining/sitting on her sister/screaming at her sister/hitting her sister crapoloa, all I have to do is give her one warning with the chair as punishment and she straightens out like a board. She’s scared of it. Its wonderful.

    It’s sad that I think that way, but who knew you could n’t reason rationally with a 4 yr old.

    Oh, and when she dosen’t get her way, and starts that fake crying stuff (which I’m sure she’s pulled on you too) I do exactly what you do, send her to her room to be mad/sad in there.

  11. Jen May 29, 2007 at 7:31 am #

    Four sucks.
    Mine just came up, gripped my arm and pretended to squeeze while gritting her teeth and making some sort of primal growl. Because I’m using the computer and she wants to. WTF? And then there’s the fake crying and ‘but I wanna’ and the real crying over the most random things (Daddy leaving the toilet seat up, when C and I left her to go to a wedding 2 YEARS AGO.)

    I know half of my frustration is being pregnant and cranky, but if I had a nickel for every time I had to tell her to pull herself together, I’d book myself a hotel room for the week. In Hawaii.

  12. Netter May 29, 2007 at 10:17 am #

    Hey, sounds much like B who is just past 3. And four years ago was unkown to me.

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