Favorite? MOI?!?!

25 Feb

While reading The Star the other day, I came across this article.

It sounded familar.

I’m guily of playing favorites. Somedays I don’t like Vivian-she’s too manic, she’s all over the place, she’s talking, she’s yattering she’s screaming my GAWD she won’t ever shut up.

On those days, I gravitate to Rosalyn, all snuggly and soft and sweet, and ready to cuddle with Mommy. She’s so adorable, all fluttery eyelashes and coy glances. She’s her mother’s daughter.

See? You can tell she’s my favorite right there. And I guess she is in terms of how i relate to her-she’s more “my child” than Vivian. I can anticipate her needs better, I’m more likely to know what’s wrong with her, despite not knowing what she’s saying. Vivian, in a classic 3.5 year old move, can mean a multitude of things.

Is it wrong to have a favorite? I’ve always believed I was my father’s favorite, so maybe I don’t feel the difference like a non favorite child would. I’m sure my brother would have something to say about it. I don’t treat my daughters any different, really. (I don’t think so at least) I just have a slightly warmer place in  my heart for Ros. I see myself. I guess in some way, I feel more for her because I know what happened to me. Sure, it won’t happen to her. But it doesn’t make any difference for me.

Are there favorites in your family?

13 Responses to “Favorite? MOI?!?!”

  1. gl2814 February 25, 2007 at 6:57 pm #

    well, Viv is usually MY favorite – and mostly for the same reasons Ros is yours, i.e. she’s more like me, I just “get” her. which isn’t to say I love Ros any less… so don’t worry, it all evens out in the end 🙂

  2. Nat February 25, 2007 at 7:28 pm #

    If there were favorites in my family, it sure as hell wasn’t me. lol

    Rita’s MY favorite. HAHAHA

  3. Peggy February 25, 2007 at 7:46 pm #

    I know I was my Dad’s favorite. But my middle brother was my mom’s–he was more like her. Still I never suffered for affection.

    But I know what you say about “getting” your kids. I’m more like my two mellow boys, and don’t really get all the emotion from the other three. Maybe having five though, I don’t feel like I have a “favorite.” They’re all my favorite, just on different days. Lately I’ve been more empathetic toward my oldest son and my daughter–even though they aren’t like me emotionally.

  4. venessa February 26, 2007 at 12:05 pm #

    I don’t know that relating to one child more than another is playing favorites. All people do that with all of their relationships. A is so much like me that we fight a lot. I love her as much as the others, but she frustrates me more. Could be an age/developemental phase thing that will even out eventually. We’ll see.

  5. Jon Speer February 26, 2007 at 12:58 pm #

    I have two kids–a boy and a girl. Both are special. I try to find ways for each of them to be dad’s favorite.

  6. Jason Dufair February 26, 2007 at 3:04 pm #

    Alyssa is probably more like me, personality-wise. But I wouldn’t say I have favorites. It’s easy for me to enjoy each of them in their own way. And easy for me to get pissed at them when the need arises too. I probably treat them all somewhat differently, but I’d like to think it’s due to age and personality specifically. I certainly love them all with every cell of my body. And I tell them so often.

  7. Kind of Crunchy Mama February 26, 2007 at 3:40 pm #

    My favorite is whoever is being quiet at the time. So it could change moment to moment. Or I could hate them both at the same time.

    I’m sure when they get older there will be things I do with one and not the other based on common interest. But for now I appreciate their differences and love them for being individuals.

  8. bromac February 26, 2007 at 4:38 pm #

    I only have one thus far so she is, hands-down, my fav 🙂

    As far as my family, eh. I think my parents went back and forth depending on who was currently in a ‘major asshole’ stage. My oldest brother is a fuck-up so he takes the cake. The next oldest is one of those “does everything, never gets caught”. Plus, he was super popular/athlete/smart guy. I was athletic and smart, but not as well loved…plus, I had more of an attitude. The younger brother is the ‘baby’ so he is very much adored. I think I am a favorite now, but not when we were younger. Can they still get favorites when everyone is grown?

  9. kate1976 February 26, 2007 at 5:47 pm #

    I have a feeling I am the favourite just because I have always been easier to get along with. What my parents won’t realise is that it can be a burden being the favourite… I have spent all my life trying to make my brother look good for that precise reason. On the other hand, it did mean I got away with murder (not literally, of course!) and I did get other perks. I suppose I just wish my brother had it easier in life generally so that they wouldn’t have to lean one way or the other.

  10. thordora February 27, 2007 at 11:29 am #

    I’m cuter. That’s why I’m the favorite. Always was, and still am.

  11. misspudding February 28, 2007 at 2:11 am #

    I love it when people say, “I don’t have a favorite child” because that’s BULLSHIT.

    I’m not the favorite, at all. My parents are equally divided with me. I think it’s because I was the youngest of three. My oldest sister, though, butted heads tremendously with my father for years, until she became an adult. Now she and him are best friends because they are the EXACT same person. Same with my sister who is in the middle. She and my mom never got along but they’re so similar now; she is, of course, my father’s disappointment because she’s just like my mom.

    My son is equally like me and my husband, though I can see him being just like my husband when he gets older and thus, butting heads. I lurve him sooo much, though! Little kids (not babies) are awesome!

  12. thordora February 28, 2007 at 8:09 am #

    I know. I’ve always yelled BULLSHIT! too, since EVERYONE has a favorite between two things. It doesn’t mean anyone is treated badly-it just means someone is preferred.

  13. Pulsate March 9, 2007 at 8:57 am #

    I try to love my children inconditionnaly and I can tell that for a father, that is completely impossible ;o) I think I love them too much…

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