Doorstep

7 Feb

You’re 18. You’re alone. You’re pregnant.

Imagine this was you.

You’re 18 and you give birth ALONE. You’re scared, and broke. You’ve hidden this pregnancy since the day you began to show. No one knows. No one can know.

You cut the cord yourself, somehow. You frantically try and figure out what to do. You leave the baby at the house with the lights on.

Try as I might, I can’t imagine charging this poor girl with anything. Imagine how crazy you would feel, how isolated you must be to feel that you can’t go anywhere for help. Other reports I read stated that she had a “difficult” backround, so she wouldn’t trust others easily I’d imagine. She felt her only option for the child, a healthy, full term baby girl, was someone’s door step where the light was on.

Imagine you’re that girl. Imagine.

I don’t know if Saskatoon has safe haven laws, and maybe they should. Yes, that baby could have died.

But what of the mother? What drives a girl to this? How have we failed her?

7 Responses to “Doorstep”

  1. karriew February 7, 2007 at 10:43 am #

    How sad. 😦

    I do think she could have at least rung the doorbell or knocked an ran or something, but I agree that she was in a bad situation and probably did the best she could think of at that moment.

  2. LGirl February 7, 2007 at 12:27 pm #

    Yup I am all for safe haven laws!! but I think they have too many freaking rules. Safe should mean just that that the Mom will be safe if you leave a healthy, unharmed baby under a certain age, I don’t think the Mom’s should be made to sign forms or even say why. Nor should they be obligated to put the baby to a fire house or hospital.
    If you cared enough to see the baby is safe that should be enough.

  3. Caitlin February 7, 2007 at 3:29 pm #

    This is why we will loan Paul money to cover emergency contraception, abortions, and prenatal care. I’ve been through the whole unplanned pregnancy and it’s stressful enough even when you’re in a stable relationship with someone who won’t pressure you into their version of “doing the right thing”.

    I have a hard time blaming her. For all I know, she told the father, who told her to have an abortion she couldn’t afford and refused to help with any expenses. I don’t know her parents, but the way they talked about unplanned pregnancies may have led her to believe she’d get no help from them. I was 23 when I got pregnant and I still dreaded telling my parents for that very reason.

    People need to remember that safe havens protect two people – the mother and the child. Making it more difficult to anonymously drop off a child at a safe haven probably means more sad stories about babies in dumpsters when the mother felt she was in over her head.

  4. Estella February 7, 2007 at 3:32 pm #

    I don’t have a hard time blaming her.

    I don’t like it one bit.

  5. thordora February 7, 2007 at 6:38 pm #

    Blaming her would be easy. I find it more difficult to find compassion and try and imagine what a horrible place she would have been in for this to be the logical choice.

    But I find it anyway because this could have be any one of us at anytime. This could be one of our daughters.

  6. Jennifer February 9, 2007 at 1:37 am #

    I read an article about what young women go through when they are alone and scared. There is a mental status term that applies here, but my brain is fogged over.

    Imagine if you will, as a mother, giving birth, in silence because you are terrified of being caught.

  7. thordora February 9, 2007 at 8:35 am #

    The thought of being that poor girl makes me want to cry.

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