Fucking Freecycle

11 Dec

I’ve just about had it.

I’ve been doing this freecycle thing for awhile now, and I’m usually giving more than I ask for. Hell, I rarely ask for anything. But after awhile, you just cannot believe how, frankly, greedy people are.

In the past 6 months at least, I’ve seen people asking for the following:

  • MP3 Players
  • Xbox’s
  • Large pieces of furniture, like china cabinets, dinner suites
  • insanely specified car rims
  • laptops

You get the idea. There’s always a ton of “requests” I cannot believe for the sheer audacity. And when these people actually offer anything (which is rare-I’ve noticed people are very good at taking, but not giving) it’s stuff like “used Christmas tinsel” or some such nonsense.

The idea of the website is to reuse stuff you may not have a need for any longer, offering it to others. Reasonable requests are to be made. But I hardly see reasonable anymore. And sure, it never hurt to ask for something someone might have kicking around-but there’s a HUGE difference between asking for a popcorn popper and a laptop.

Is this why people get so burned out on charity? Because other people so often take it for granted, and take advantage of it? It’s almost insulting to have someone come on who has never offered something, and have them ask for something insane like a “like new couch”. It bothers me. It bothers my sense of fairness. It bothers me because the “exchange” is meant to be fair-keeping stuff out of landfill, and helping other people. Not saving some money on your Christmas list because your kid is to lazy to get a job for something that is, at best, not necessary. It bothers me that some people seem to have no shame in asking for outlandish things, and that when called on it, get offended. It bothers me that these same people never bother to offer anything up. It’s like helping someone eat the fruits of their garden, and yet never helping to plant anything.

I’ve noticed lately that people not playing by certain “rules” really get on my nerves. It’s like I’m a 10 year old again, yelling “It’s not FAIR!”. And I’m certainly yelling. But how much nicer would it be if people were as generous in giving, as they are in getting? How much nicer would it be if people read the “rules” and offered before taking? How much better would it be if people weren’t such greedy fuckwits?

 sigh….being sick does nothing for my goodwill towards men now does it….but hey, dreaming about being raped all night can do that to a girl…

16 Responses to “Fucking Freecycle”

  1. Venessa December 11, 2006 at 9:56 pm #

    I share your sentiments. I can’t believe how many laptop and Mp3 player requests I see. I don’t usually offer stuff, but when people request something I have and don’t need, I always respond. Last week I gave away a bouncy seat and a play kitchen set. I also can’t stand all the people who “offer” their pets. They are animals, not things! Arg!

  2. thordora December 11, 2006 at 10:00 pm #

    OMFG! The pets! I was gonna mention that, but I didn’t. I can’t imagine giving them away without meeting the new people and seeing if you’re cool with it. ICK.

    See, the way you do it doesn’t bother me, since I do that a lot as well. I just don’t get why people feel that someone might have a spare MP3 player hanging around…

  3. Venessa December 11, 2006 at 10:13 pm #

    I just checked my mail and there were two dogs for “offer.” People too fucking cheap to take the dogs to the animal shelter where at least the potential owners are screened. We had to do so much work to get our dog from there. Last week there were several kittens and some angora rabbits. I wish I had a farm so I could scoop them all up and give them a home. *sigh*

  4. Estella December 11, 2006 at 10:40 pm #

    The Freecycle group in my new town is just really sad. Not any requests for ipods or laptops, but in the past week I’ve seen requests for:

    -Infant formula
    -Ensure for a grandson who needs a can a day
    -Boys underwear (size 6) but girls underwear will be okay until they can find some made for boys
    -Any household items such as towels or kitchen utensils because they’re getting “their own place” and have nothing.

  5. Jennifer December 12, 2006 at 2:57 am #

    It must be a regional thing. I get the ones for this area, and they are all very reasonable. Most are offers vs wanted. I havent yet participated, but I will be soon as the kiddo grows and I can get rid of stuff.

  6. puddlejumper December 12, 2006 at 5:31 am #

    Take solace in the fact that until I read this post I’d never heard of the scheme and having just googled it discovered that not only does it operate in the UK too but there is a group near enough to join.

    Thankyou.

    Having three kids (boy16, girl14 boy7)I always have stuff to pass on.

    I can’t bear the though of my elder son’s outgrown things sitting in my loft for 9 years until my younger son would fit into them. Not when there might be a kid who could use the stuff NOW. And I have no female children to pass down my daughters stuff.

    Just waiting on them emailing me back to hopefully accept me as a member.

    Thanks!

  7. thordora December 12, 2006 at 8:46 am #

    Sometimes it’s good-I’ve gotten rid of a LOT of stuff this way, and received a few things (esp clothes for newborns-who wants to buy that stuff?).

    Puddle-I’m glad you found it-it’s a great idea! It’s just annoying when people join, ask for stuff, and are never seen or heard from again.

    I just gave away a brand new snowsuit to someone since we couldn’t use it, and I’m not going through all the effort of selling it. Hopefully, they put it up next year when their child outgrows itt.

    And that underwear thing is NASTY.

  8. Ms Sisyphus December 12, 2006 at 12:56 pm #

    You’ve just hit the many reasons I don’t freecycle. Which is not to say I don’t give. But mostly what I have to give away, I find moms I know who can use it, and then send it on. The stuff that I can’tsend out into the world that way gets put into the “free for the taking” bin in the laundry room. And the just flat out nasty, used up crap does get sent to the landfill, because some things do belong there.

  9. Jason Dufair December 14, 2006 at 12:30 am #

    I have given away a few things on freecycle. I don’t get the emails though. I just post to the list when I have something. I find it’s almost always more of a pain than just taking it to Goodwill. I suppose it’s more direct, but I don’t have the time to be home at just the right time or whatever. So my shit mostly piles up. I need to have an eBay week. Most of my stuff is too specialized to freecycle or Goodwill (accessories for a Dell Axim X51v that I lost at the county fair, for example).

    thordora – really really sorry to hear about the dreams. Dreams can be so hard and so intense sometimes.

  10. pine December 29, 2006 at 5:19 am #

    I have discovered an alternative to Freecycle.
    I-recycle is not using the Yahoo platform.

    http://irecycle.conceptuel.co.uk

  11. Chris February 13, 2008 at 8:49 pm #

    YES! Im in Chicago- our Freecycle can be so depressing with the requests for cars, “lap tops”, PSP’s, and other sundry luxury goods. The higher the ticket price for the want item, the worse the spelling becomes.Some people seem to think of Freecycle as some kind of cosmic wish fulfillment service. Im tired of it. The moderators are worthless.

    Whaaaaatever, I say.

  12. Andrew May 15, 2008 at 5:10 pm #

    I own a large UK freecycle group, in fairness things have changed, my group allows the offering of laptops and such, we do not allow wanted posts for such items, nor do we allow pets, i agree with everyone on that one.

    We have fantastic software now that runs over and above yahoo groups, if you ask and ask and ask, alarm bells ring and you get me in your email, no requests for a silver microwave, if you want a microwave then you ask for A MICROWAVE. No house refits if your mums thrown you out, we try very hard in our group and it reflects in people who want to be with us.

    I am not saying all groups do this, i know they do not, however i am fair.

    Andy

  13. thordora May 15, 2008 at 5:54 pm #

    The local group here takes forever to post, so I’ve moved on to Kijiji.

    I’m glad to hear things are changing! That’s awesome!

  14. Diane September 19, 2008 at 4:05 am #

    I really get mad about it and now I’ve unsubscribed from the group. I found it too annoying. I had posted about people wanting the moon on a stick only to be told that the mods think 3 wanted ads a month each is perfectly fine.
    Well they would be perhaps if they were for small things rather than laptops and expensive consoles.
    I really get cross when people ask for things for their friends or their family too – like a whole house full of furniture.

  15. RinahangE November 2, 2008 at 3:50 pm #

    sorry, where is rss feed of your blog?

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