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February 14, 2008 by thordora

bwahahahahahahahaaaaa…..

I can’t only imagine how many times Mogo asked this to anyone who was listening.

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on February 14, 2008 at 1:55 pm | Reply Mogo

Im’ma go with bitch
on February 14, 2008 at 4:45 pm | Reply daisybones

What? You can’t be both? Surely a woman of your talents can manage to do both simultaneously;)
on February 16, 2008 at 1:24 pm | Reply James

Shes likely both. Mine sure is. If I had only known then what I know now. Is she on meds? Mine is, and they sorta help. The part that sucks is bipolars can essentially do what they want, and YOU have to clean up after them. Its the most selfish disorder I have ever seen. THEY can run off, spend money, firt, have lesbo affairs, whatever, but YOU, the “normal” one, have to put up with it, fix the problems they create for themselves, take care of the kids and bills, and just suck it up till you cant take it anymore. If I knew this was what was going to happen, I would have never bothered with getting married. And sooner or later, I wont be married to her. She can have her messy life make her lesbo lover miserable, I will be GONE.
on February 16, 2008 at 2:38 pm | Reply thordora

No james, you don’t have to put up with it. You can walk away. No one would blame anyone for walking away from a bipolar who can’t or won’t change. Mine would have left me if I didn’t.

You’re important too.
on February 16, 2008 at 6:33 pm | Reply bipolarbear

I know my husband asks this very question to himself, but then he lets me know that I’m being bitchy, and am I feeling all right? I stop and think, and usually it’s no, I’m not all right.
on February 16, 2008 at 7:28 pm | Reply James

As much as I would love to just walk out of this mess, we have a son who is in HS. Hes a great kid. Knowing the laws of my state, it’s a long road till I get custody. He has many of her traits, and I pray he doesnt get her psyc issues. Leaving them together is a recipe for ruining his life, unless I am there to keep him on track. When she gets uppity and decides that she wants to be with her ‘friend’ more than us, then she can walk out. She still has the ability to make my life miserable if she thinks I wronged her. I would prefer that she believe she walked out on us. What I am confident of is that she would be trying to get back in with me in a matter of weeks/months, and when that comes, I will be long gone. Mentally/emotionally I have already moved out.
on February 16, 2008 at 7:45 pm | Reply thordora

I’m so sorry James. I wish there was something else, but you can’t force someone to get treatment.

And I can’t blame you in your situation. Just know that it’s not your fault-any of it.
on February 16, 2008 at 8:50 pm | Reply James

Thanks..whats gonna be fun is that her ‘friend’ is coming for a visit, and staying at our house. I was not consulted or asked about this, just that shes coming. So the two of them will be here while I am at work. I have been assured that its all gonna be G rated, above the board behavior, but I know better. She has a doc, and her doc says this woman is not good for her, but my wife ignores everyones pleas to stop. Im tired of yelling at her over it. The only thing I am confident about is that when the visit is over, shes not going to have one of us, and at this point, I think its going to be me thats gone from her life.

What makes me sad is that Im not sad about it. I just want it over with.
on February 26, 2008 at 8:18 pm | Reply Jenn

James you are obviously very upset. I cant say that I blame you, being a partner of someone with bipolar is not easy. This ride can get really tiring, and if you are done you are done. I guess my concern is that you are putting your wife in a position that you can point a finger and blame her for the fall of your relationship. By allowing this “visit” to happen and proclaim that as a result the relationship will be over, is taking the easy way out of it for you. Rather than sitting down with your wife and talking about the problems and coming to the decision together. I wouldnt blame you for making the decision to end the relationship, you are in a very difficult position and the trust has been broken. For both your wife and yourself I would suggest talking about this situation and coming to a decision together rather than blowing up as a result of this visit. I would say to put a stop to the visit and deal with the issues at hand with maturity. Good luck, I hope all the best for you and your wife.
on March 7, 2008 at 11:09 pm | Reply James

The visit happened, but only lasted about half what it was supposed to. It was not as bad as I had imagined. Apparently they didnt quite hit it off as lovers, but did manage to be friendly and enjoy their time together. They have decided they are better as friends than lovers, and have plans for a return trip to visit in a few months. Since this woman left, I have found more of my wifes sexual advertising for lesbian girlfriends on her computer. She assures me its more to find bi friends than it is a means to get sex. What I know is that if she has to hide it from me, its a concern. Every time she does something like this, even if it doesnt come to actual infidelity, it drives another nail into the coffin or our marriage. Im just tired of having to look at everything she does with a suspicious eye. Moreover, she sucks at hiding this stuff, so its never that hard to find!

I dont want to put my wife in the position of her ruining our relationship, but what happens time and again is that she ingores my advise or direction, and the resulting mess is mine to clean up. I do that for a living in a professional setting, I dont need to come home and do more for free, when she knows better.

My final conclusion on whats going to happen is that when/if she decides to push me to my limit is really not that much in my control. She will do what she will do: meds and docs and husbands be dammed. Its simply not much fun to live in a perpetual state of readiness to move out. And worst of all, I know that no woman will ever have me at such a disadvantage. I could be a great husband to some woman who wants one, but she has all but ruined my taste for getting involved with another marriage.
on April 7, 2008 at 4:49 pm | Reply wild in Florida

I can identify with you even though I don’t have a wife that is bipolar but a woman who sleeps on my couch and has for going on 2 years. I made it clear that I want her out but now the play is on for my boyfriend’s (of 8 years) sympathy. He has told me he is tired of hearing me “bitch” about her BS.
Selfish is not even coming close to the deviousness and the lying. She was told when she moved in here that I couldn’t handle a feather pillow in the house and the whore snuck one in. I have an ear infection because of it and she still has not removed the pillow. Boyfriend says I am just “making it up”
If I had a way to leave…..I would. Not getting the emotional support is draining me.
on April 27, 2008 at 4:09 pm | Reply josh

I know what you are going through! My X fiance that is still my girl friend is bipolar a rapid cycling bipolar to be exact. Or so these shrinks say. Not sure how you diagnose someone with a couple visits and a survey, and then put them on mind altering medication. But any way, we have a young daughter together and we have lived together for 5 years. My life has been hell the last 5 years, Yet i’m still here? Why? I love her and think we can make things work, And I don’t want my daughter to end up like her. I feel if I leave she for sure will. That and I am scared that if I leave she will treat my daughter like she treats me and I care to much about her to be happy myself. I’m not saying she does but with me not around who else can she freak at. That being another point to ask you James, does it seem like she’s only bipolar with you and not anyone else? My girlfriend doesn’t treat her family or friends like that. She’s the same with sex, she was on sex chats and talks and going out and cheating on me. Even had the disrespect to do it to me on my birthday, with my best friend, when I was passed out in another room. I woke up and caught them. Had a feeling something was wrong. As for now she’s still on some sights and talks about it. I tell her that if it happens again I’ll be gone. hasn’t happend since but it seems like an empty threat, as I am still here. I work all day come home and cook and then clean after. Makes for a long day and not much time to spend with my daughter. We see councellors and they are really good! We can communicate there, but when where not there we can barely talk to each other. Not sure how your other is but mine throws things at me like mirrors and phones, and glasses once even a knife, and it wasn’t a butter knife. So scared ya, confused ya, angry ya, dipressed ya. I have lost alot of close friends as they do not want to be aound me because they think they will have to be around her and don’t want to have to deal with if she has a freak out. Life hasn’t gotten any easier I know life isn’t suppose to be easy, but I had no idea it would be like hell, or so as hell is described.
on May 7, 2008 at 1:01 pm | Reply some guy

My wife is a bitch too
she is always having issues and falling out with everybody.
If you have known my wife for any length of time,she has been mad at you.
She thinks that everybody is wrong and if you disagree with her you are trying to change her mind, and (guess what) she is mad at you for a long time…
I wish i could leave,we have 2 Girls and leaving them with her would be a disaster she would destroy both of them and the would be mad at the world too
Im an idiot too for marring her but now im stuck for 18 years (at least)
i have always been happy till i married her
i cant keep any friends with her around,my own family loves me to come around WITHOUT her
i wish i would have stayed with my ex(who still loves me)…better yet not be married at all
on May 7, 2008 at 9:13 pm | Reply Unhappy man

Ahh yes, it is nice to see that there are other people who have lives that suck as much as mine does putting up with my wife and her craziness. My wife has added eating disorder issues and so I have to watch her dumbass eat lettuce for every meal and my shirnk says that I can not do anything to help her. Why could I not just turn back the clock and not get into this terrible situation. On top of this, I feel that I need to stay because her mother is dying of a terminal illness. This means that I get beat down everyday and just take it because I want to help her. Well its time to leave.
on May 11, 2008 at 5:23 am | Reply Wife's a BItch...

What seems to be common is the woman, on becoming a Mom, ascends to her throne, (moaning and bitching about her pains which turns into a constant verbal beating that she is better than I ) then does a power grab in the name of Motherhood, using the children as emotional blackmail, knowing that the devout (read soft gullible) father dare not risk the sacrifice of the children to her, and therefore feels immune and powerful (possibly for the first time in her miserable life) and proceeds to vomit and spew her indignity, self-righteous rage over the household, like a bloody kotex flung across a white wall, as if she were some sort of holy martyress, putting up with our foul-smelling transgressions that we do only to spite and vex her more. And as this pitiful charade wears on, the love turns to hate, the verbal abuse can no longer be beared, and the cycle is continued. It doesn’t help that we live in a one bedroom apartment either. But ultimately the walls are built in our hearts and minds. So does it save the child? To see this sick-biotic relationship? The children suffer the parent’s ills. Such is life.
on May 11, 2008 at 9:30 am | Reply thordora

Yes, cause we all know that men are saints and have nothing to do with any situation.

Regardless of my own illness, my husband has played into it, and made things worse. The difference is we BOTH admit our culpability and move on, instead of slinging mud at each other.
on May 12, 2008 at 12:03 pm | Reply denise

I understand and feel SO much for all of u on here. God is this site gr8 for venting and support. I have read every post… and it s making me think about things in a more reasonable state of mind, and not a state of mind of someone in love, lonely and very very depressed…. I started dating a guy a couple of months ago (we knew each other in high school)… we’ve had this amazing fairytale story, and unbelievable things in our lives… parallel lives that no 2 other ppl could share…. we even work in the same industry and grew up in the same town in europe as kids, before high school in the us….. But then he turned nasty, VERY NASTY, i could not recognise him!! …At first he told me he wanted 2 marry me and have kids with me, and I was “the one”… THEN got abusive and disappeared. He went overseas, did not contact me until he came back… I thought I’d give it another go… then again!! He was perfect and we were in love, and then the next moment he woke up and said he could not see me anymore, we are not good together…. He has disappeared again, and i have not seen him for about 2 weeks. Last time was a little ovr 3 weeks… This time, who knows? a couple of weeks? months? never? ….not knowing kills me!! I have been in bed depressed for three weeks, i am so drained of energy, even walking to the shop 2 grab something 2 eat (no energy 2 cook) tires me out!! After reading ur posts I think 2 myself that I should learn from ur experiences and listen 2 wat u say… I do not want to be a single mother, and saying “if only I could turn back time” “if only I had gotten out while I could” “if only I had not married him” ….but then the other little voice comes in and says “no, u love him, it will be hard, but try” …I need 2 b strong and take ur advice. I have already been destroyed 2 times in only a matter of 2 months!! I don’t know if i am strong enuff 4 constant abuse and disappearing acts?? I hope i’ll be strong enuff IF he does return, but I can’t be so sure. Is it true that they usually always return? Thanks for reading
- on September 6, 2009 at 10:45 pm | Reply tra la la
  
  he’s obviously married to the “other” overseas woman and splitting his sales calls with you… for fun. don’t get yourself preggers!! i am 40 and single and seen ALL men’s tricks. i’ve heard it all, oh there’s no one like you, you’re beautiful, i want your kids, blah blah blah, when he needs his car insc paid or just get laid. where is he at the holidays though?? if he’s not spending every minute with you, falling all over himself, fixing your car, saving your hamster, buying your mom flowers, and commits within a year, lose him fast!!! btw, i still have hope there’s someone out there that’s normal…. sigh.
  
  ps-if anyone knows what psych disorder this following description is, please puh-leez let me know. My mom and ex both have it. it’s so wierd, it’s like they are twins. all the symtoms are exactly the same! i’ve been trying to figure it out for 40 years, but they won’t get diagnosed! ADHD, BPD, BIPOLAR, NARSISSIST, sadist, WHAT???! they think there’s nothing wrong with them, that it’s the victim. Nasty mood ALL the time, shrieking at anything, waving arms, provoking you, judging you, insulting you, criticizing you, finding fault with everything in life, dream crushers, having a huge yelling scene and acting like nothing happened 15 minutes later, answers before you finish sentence, binge like over eating, grandiose self-centered selfish, cold, no empathy, mean, vindictive, obsessed with looks, cannot stand fat people, have tics like picking or ocd moving things in place, not affection- ate, (male, wild sex then nothing after he finds fault in everything about you), (woman,no sex for dad,frigid), control freak, their way without logic no matter what, impulsive (shopping), cannot decide on anything- takes days, sometimes they give up deciding all together even if they need a new phone or sink whatever, fidgeting constantly, wake up at rooster hours in morn, pass out early at night, do not do hobbies like sports or puzzles, incessant talking over people at people among people to themselves all day and night, needy, have to have constant audience, constant activity, eat fast, talk fast, do fast, no tolerance, no patience, once in a while they fool others and act all sweet usually for favors, if it’s toward me the target -it’s nice to me for 1-2 days max then the screaming at the lambs begins again…. help. it’s like the arguments get them high. it makes me sick.
on May 31, 2008 at 1:34 am | Reply Kevin

Wholly cow I could write a book on this blog. I’m currently getting ready to divorce my wife of 17 years. We have been together for 21 years. She has been bipolar the whole time with super mood swings, cheating , lying and feeling sorry for herself. Always someone elses fault. We have two children ages 19 and 17 and I swore I would fight it for the kids sake. I suppose I was selfish as well for wanting to be with my childen and protect them. I have had good times with my wife, but often wonder if hers was a show. I could go into detail about all the affairs and the divorces she has contributed to, but I will not. The straw that broke the camels back is when my children seen their own mother with another man up close and personal and she still had the nerve to say it wasn’t true and they were lying. They didn’t see what they saw! I’m done, relieved, hurt ,sad, but feel like a bus has been lifted from my shoulders. I no longer have to make things appear OK. I no longer have anger in my heart. Stress and anger put my in the Hospital Cardiac Unit once for three days many yaers ago. No heart attack just heart arithmias. I’m OK now. Yes they had heard mention of previous affairs from family members, but never in their face so to speak. I have talked with them and told them to not hold anger in their heart. It was my own fault for staying. She is their mother and has contributed alot to their well being. She still loves them even thougth her actions were not appropriate. They will be living with me and I look forward to a new life. Please, any one going through this, man or woman, be true to yourself! Be truthful to others and you will gain much more respect! How many times have I had that stare from someone who Knows. TOO MANY!! Maybe now I can regain some of my self esteem. Rock bottom and climbing!
on May 31, 2008 at 9:01 am | Reply thordora

It’s a horrible illness when untreated that can destroy people. I’m sorry that she was never able to find a place where she was willing to fix things. I’m glad you’re moving on. I know my husband would have if it had gotten to a bad place. We were well on our way.

I’m glad that you also know she loves her kids-she does, in her way. It’s so hard to understand that divided mind she likely lives with. You sound like you’ve tried.

I hope things get better for you now. I truly do.
on June 2, 2008 at 5:56 pm | Reply Tony

When your in a relationship with a bipolar wife or bithch you feel that your all alone. I can relate to all the fellas. I’m an idiot for getting arried not knowing what I was getting into. She snaps at the worst times. On our way home from a Maui vacation she goes off on me on the plane instigating a fight. What can i do at 36000 feet? I stepped off the plane with bruises on my arms. I hate her for it. There’s something new everyweek. I even got stuck doing Anger management defending myself during one of HER tantrums. Monday starts a new issue, and i have to hear every story she’s been pissed about, and how much she hates me, my family…and who works, just me. Yea, she takes meds. Do they work? NOPE! I still hear a bunch of crap. I would love for her to leave, or find someone new. Ruin someone elses life. Unfortunately, we have a beautiful 3 year old son. I don’t want to hurt him. He needs me, and not her yelling at him all the time..What else can you do? Send her to shrinks? I don’t want to be married to her anymore. If I try to leave, she’ll probably come after me to either hurt me, hurt my job, or something to get at me. I try to love her, but it gets ruined when she runs her mouth. I can’t keep being the one to blame..what do i do?
on June 5, 2008 at 12:43 pm | Reply denise

Tony, I really feel for you, and I know wat it is like 2 b stuck… altho I do not have a child. First of all, I did want to say that a man can be just as bad as a woman. I was dealing with my boyfriend until recently. He was verbally abusive all the tme, threw tantrums, blamed me for everything, I had to watch everything I said and did -and still did everything wrong!! It was a terrible feeling to always be on edge and walking on eggshells 2 not get yelled at or put down. Anyways… I think u have already made ur decidion, LOUD and clear. U have said that u do not want to be with her, and you want to “not be married”. I understand you have a son, but you also have to think about ur wellbeing. This is obviously easier said than done… but I think u shd leave. You will still be able to see your son, and you will be able to then be happy again and live a normal life. Your son will adapt to the change, children always do. My parents were divorced and my brother and I adapted. The only hard thing was not being able to see my father bc we moved overseas… so just make sure you get to see him on weekends If she tries to go after you and hurt you or ur job, u will just have to be strong. I doubt she can do much to ruin your job, and if she tries u can always tell ppl that she was doing watever she was doing bc she didn’t want u to divorce her. Ppl will just think she is a crazy woman!! Men always think us women are crazy at the drop of a hat, lol. As for your son… if he stays with her, just make sure u see him on weekends… and wen u do, if he is unhappy ask him if he wants to live with u, if he says yes, tell her. Then… take him 2 a shrink, and if the shrink says that he is unhappy and shd live with you, u have it documented Just running ideas off the top of my head for you, haha. Altho u prob thought of all this b4, lol. I had to breakup with my guy -we were not together long- but knew each other from back in our teens. Was a fairytale romance..until the abuse started. He stole, lied, probably cheated etc etc… Ask me to marry him one minute, then the next minute told me I meant nothing to him, and bitched me out 2 all his friends -lies- and they all hate me and think I am crazy now. So… it was not good. I kept giving him chances… but it drained me, i almost had a nervoud breakdown, stopped working, stayed in bed for over a month. I gave hima final chance… i was sweet and perfect, loving like no one had ever prob been to him… and he was again abusive and told me I meant nothing to him after sleeping with me. SO, that was the final straw. It’s hard… i still cry. Was 2-3 weeks ago. I had to erase all the contact info i had for him, or else i wd have eventually contacted him. I ended the relationship with a fone call were I screamed at him for the first time, and got evil for the first time. I ended it with me being “on top” and said things which would have hurt him. I hung up on him (usually he does it) He tried calling me back… i never picked up. He sounded a bit shocked, lost and hurt n his voicemail. But then gave-up, and I have not heard from him since. Maybe I will again one day?? Maybe not?? I secretly hope so…. i kno it is bad!! ANyways… sometimes I think we have to get evil. They might be sick… but they are still human and shd kno right from wrong to a certain extent wen it comes to abuse. I think if we dish it back from tym to tym it s the only way to protect ourselves and kick their asses “slightly” into place. Why should they get away with that behaviour and we can’t!! Seriously!! Hope this helped u a bit. Good luck with everything, keep us posted.
on June 10, 2008 at 12:35 pm | Reply KW

Hello,
My wife is also bi polar. I am in the same boat as the rest of you guy’s (walking on egg shells, being blamed for everything, being told i am mean, having to indure her tamtrums when she is upset or frustrated). I have a beautiful 5 year old daughter that means the world to me. I want so much for her and I to leave this “mad” women and live pecefuly. When my wife start yealling at me my little one always say “dada just don’t talk to her and maybe she will stop”. The poor little girl is stuck inthe middle. I want so badly to get a divorce but i know that i will be reduced to only seeing my little one every other week and the “mad women” will get all the money she can get her hads on. See unfortunatly it is easier for the women to get what ever she wants and can accuse the man of whatever she wants and get away with it in todays courts. So when you take that into consideration and then you throw a bi polar personality which in her mind she is the victem of everything that happens and dose not recognize the abuse she dished out then basicly the only option i have is to stay. i don’t know how much more i can take. iam shaking and all of the time just waiting for the bomb to drop again 9usually happens every 10 min). For example my wife got a new blackbeerry this morning and called me up because she could not figure out how to put the sim card in. i was trying to help her but she started to get frustated and then started putting me down because she could not figure out the phone. Also i was trying to answer some of her customer emails and i got fussed at about that. She say’s “i need help” so i try to help but I just get put down and ridiculed for what ever i do. She calls me at work just to fuss about something.
I know i’m just rambleing but I am so beaten down. wILL BIPOLAR PEOPLE EVER REALIZE THE HURT THAT THEY INFLICT ON OTHERS OR ARE THEY ALWAYS THE VICTIM?
on June 10, 2008 at 3:24 pm | Reply denise

I don’t know either?? I wish someone could answer that! Its just not fair that they always get away with everything. Ppl always defend them and say that they are hurting more than us… but I am not so sure. I feel dead inside, at times lyk there was no reason to live, lyk the pain will never go away, like I am trapped. I get yelled at, put down, used for sex, humiliated, told to shut up, lied to, cheated on, put in “my” place. Then other times i am “the one” -the one he wants to marry and have kids with, the intelligent one, the beautiful one, and all the compliments u can imagine. Which things does he mean? does he mean all of them or none of them? Does he remember wat he has said? Does he know the pain he causes? Sometimes I feel as though he takes gr8 pleasure in it?? Wenever I cry or look weak it actually turns him off me. Wen I am strong and tough he seems to like me more. WHy? I don’t know?? Will they ever realize the pain the cause or are they always the victim?? Hopefully someone will have an answer 4 us.
on June 11, 2008 at 1:03 am | Reply Kevin

Back again,
Signed divorce papers on the 6th and I’m not looking back. My Ex stomped me down so low the only direction was up. My children have had to face the reality thier mother needs help. Hell, I probably do too now. I feel better though, now that I’m free, than I have in years. Get out before it breaks you!

Kevin
on June 11, 2008 at 2:10 pm | Reply Tony

Thanks for the advise Denise, Kevin, and KW. She has stated she knows she has a problem and wants to seek help. Its a start. There are days she realizes she puts out alot of anxiety on us. We’ll see if the Dr helps. She sees she can’t afford to lose us…

T
on June 12, 2008 at 10:37 am | Reply denise

I am so happy 4 u Tony! ..I am interested to kno, wat made her change, wat made her come to terms and admit the problem?? I wonder if my ex will ever get to that point?? I can’t c it happening tho. Let me kno wat happens…. D
on June 12, 2008 at 1:54 pm | Reply Tony

I don’t know what happenned to be honest. Sometimes she just sees that she gets out of control, and needs to put some kind of grasp on the issue. Cause it not only stresses me out, but also affects the kids. She has said this before, but hopefully this time, she follows thru. We have Dr. Appt set, including a psychiatrist. She is already on meds for her tantrums, but hopefully seeing the doc on a regular basis will help control her behavior. I don’t know what to say about your ex, other than “move on”. Life is to short to sit and “hope” someone will come back. He’s gone for a reason. If he was meant to stay, you wouldn’t be writing to us all. That should help you decide the next step for your life. Let him ruin someone elses life..be happy. Anyway, its a long road for all of us..no one ever said it was gonna be easy.
on June 16, 2008 at 4:32 pm | Reply EndofRope

Cant believe I finally found a site that discusses this…. I have been dealing with my wife for 15 years, just the last 2 she started getting profesional help. She still thinks it is just a depression as a result of her family life (as a child). She has started seeing 2 mental health professionals and I am paying out around $1100 per month. Now she is pissed at both of them and insists that they are idiots and not giving her the help that she needs. I have 3 beautiful kids and it devistates me to think of what they have suffered because of their mother. I honestly dont know how much longer I can hold out. Even her Doctors are confounded as to the direction to go.
on June 18, 2008 at 7:06 pm | Reply Tony

EndofRope,
WOW. I don’t know what to say other than “did the prescribe anything to her? We just began seeing the Dr. again. They increased her original dosage of Seroquel. Did your Dr’s prescribe this? She needs to take something. Yes her early childhood has affected her, which more than likely causes her inbalances. The Dr. increased the meds because overtime the body becomes immune to the dosage, and the chemical inbalance take over again…of course she will be pissed off at the Dr’s, and probably the world as well. If she is on meds now..then who knows..Try lithium or valuum. what sort of things have you been dealing with? can I ask?
on June 19, 2008 at 3:01 am | Reply coty

man my wife is biopolar she is on meds and her stupid fucking ass still doing retarted shit. I cant fucking stand her any more she makes me so damn mad to the point I just want to fucking punch a fucking wall down I fucking hate her sad thing is I am in Iraq and I cant doing anything bout it fucking bitch
on June 21, 2008 at 7:15 am | Reply denise

Coty, I really feel for you. You are in a hard enough situation as it is… she is really not making things easier for you. She should really be so much more supportive!! I’m not really sure wat to tell u?? But perhaps just remember that ppl with “bipolar” have no control over their moods, and although it totally fucking sux BIG TIME for US PPL who have to cop the crap… they do love us, but don;t know how to deal with their constant paranoia and angry mood swings. They don’t even kno or realize it most of the time. I know that doesn’t solve the situation…. she need meds and a shrink (like my ex bf does) but at least u can know that it is not REALLY her, it is the “bipolar” speaking, and not the person, and know that u are not the only one to go through this and connecting with other ppl n the same situation will be a great support for you. Sorry I could not be much more help : ( I wish you well, and lots of strength.
on June 23, 2008 at 11:09 am | Reply EndofRope

Tony
Her therapist used to have her on Prozac for mood stabilization during the most upsetting times (her exposed affair and remembering abuse). Recently they have put her on aripiprazole (Abilify). Its almost like the medication helps but she has some overwhelming desire to have a problem. I think that she is adicted to the drama and cant feel good unless she feels bad (ok now I sound crazy). She needs total 100% attention and people telling her how good she is and falling over them selves to help her, or she is not happy.
on June 24, 2008 at 5:57 pm | Reply Tony

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I know what you mean by needing 100% total attention. Whenever my wife is in those states, she expects me to drop everything and throw rose pedals everywhere to make things better. Fuck that! Its bad enough we have to hear them bitch 99.9% of the time, let alone have to kiss their ass. It seems your wife has a more amplified bipolar personality. The sad part is, I was in Coty shoes..feeling like I was crumbling. We have been through it all, fights, police coming over, me getting cited, going to court and ME having to do Anger Management class. Cause one day I just couldn’t take it, she pushed me to the edge. I slapped her. YES, its wrong, don’t do that. But the point is Its hard to deal with. Very hard. Hang in there
on July 5, 2008 at 6:30 pm | Reply Mine is too

You guys are definitely not alone. My wife is a selfish bitch who only serves her own needs, regardless of how her actions affect her husband and children. I can’t say I wish I never married her because I am blessed with two wonderful daughters. I can say that my wife is a crazy bitch and I wish aliens would just swoop down and take her stupid ass away forever.

PS I wish I could just do whatever the hell I wanted and then blame it on being “bipolar”. The people that make this diagnosis are usually less insightful than myself and they’ve been studying human behavior for years.
on July 7, 2008 at 2:24 pm | Reply EndofRope

Now we hear that she has a problem with Repetition compulsion.
This has manifested its self in the form of affairs (some subtle and not a danger to our marriage, others VERY destructive as we are near divorce now). Now I find out that she has a thing for her latest shrink. Lets hope he is ethical and not going to have a fling with her.
on July 7, 2008 at 4:54 pm | Reply TONY

I am beginning to believe that most women are this way. I too cannot say I wish I never got married cuz I was blessed with a beautiful son. BUT, I know I would NEVER get married agin. Thats for DAMN SURE! I can’t understand how she has to freak out about every damn thing in the world. Its not a big deal, but they have to freak the hell out on everything and anything. I too wish aliens would come and get her, or better yet I could get lucky with lightning. As i said before, I can now see I’m not alone.
on August 25, 2008 at 12:34 am | Reply Scott

You know, I got some beef with my wife. I probably have more than anyone who reads this can imagine. As a man, I/we all feel guilty when we want to leave, and they know that, they play the cute card, and suck us back in, some of us literally sucked back in. This is our reality. I fucking hate my wife more than I have ever hated another soul, yet I love her when she loves me. Men are easy, were built this way, its our flaw, and they know it. I forget about being pissed usually within an hour. If anyone here is wondering how long.. Fucking long time.. Since Jan of 91.. I was only 20, just 20. She was hot, I’m pretty good looking as men go, but she was in a different class, holy shit I was gonna marry her, and I did. She even had a child that was 10 months old. I took that baby in, with no questions. I took care of that kid and her mom, who was then pregnant. We were supposed to get married, we fought a lot, but I could not see then what I see now. There is another baby boy after that. We moved around a lot seeking the good life. I served my country, which she made me feel bad, and started cheating on me. Mind you, This entire time we are fighting like cats and dogs. She was arrested a few times for being physical. I left her once or twice, I can’t really remember much, kind of a blur. She’s really a vicious cheating bitch, but I can forgive all of that shit, it in the past. What I can’t stand more than anything, which causes the rage to surge, is her yelling and bitching and that shitty cunt attitude, you know then one. Its the one that makes you want to kick the shit out of her. Some of you do and end up in jail, some just put hands on them, but just lightly enough to possibly keep you out of jail. Some of you just wimper like a little baby. All of us cry, don’t lie. I am a grown ass man. I used to be a fighter, like physical with other guys though. I can really kick the shit out of a guy pretty good, yet I got this fucking screaming whore in my face, and I usually am the number two guy, I just let her know a little, but not as much as I want to. She yells almost immediately when she gets pissed. Her PMS is like hell on earth. She will not stop, she will dig deep in to her hurt pockets, and hurl insults that actually make you do a penis check. Her voice 5 decibels above normal sends shivers down your spine. The very onset of a fight makes you cringe with fear. I am always like “fuck, now the rest of the day is ruined, maybe even tomorrow.” I just want to live in peace. Here is the problem, were institutionalized. I can’t leave the institution, I don’t know how to be alone or happy, and whos gonna take care of her right? I love her, I hate her, and I have to leave to live. Thats my new slogan.. “Leave to live” Peace.. Scott leave a comment..
P.S. I omitted a bunch of shit..LOL
on October 14, 2008 at 7:38 pm | Reply James

Im back. Wife is still her bipolar self. Shes moved on from one lesbian freakshow, and is now up to cruising lesbian bars by herself. The good news is that she is now hooked up with one woman, a lawyer no less! They are developing both a working and personal relationship.

In the meantime, wife has managed though her refusal to show me the books, how she put our house in forclosure (again!!) and I had to cash in my retirement money to save it. She has agreed to give me that, after seeing my savings evaporate in the bank lobby.

The kid is 15 and wonderful. Essentially I am running down the clock till he is as close to 18 as I can stand. He will doubtlessly come with me, and she can go do whatever she wants. I love her, but i dont like her very much. Make sense?
on October 14, 2008 at 9:49 pm | Reply James

Meant to add more eariler, shes perfected the passive-aggressive approach, where she has the girlfriend on the phone, tells her that shes coming over, and THEN when they hang up, looks at me in disbelief, as if she has had this planned all day. Its her trick of introducing what she wants to do without having a fight or discussion. A lot of work for nothing, she can do as she pleases. I felt so much of what Scott wrote, that theres no means to win. I put a hand on her and I lose a job, a house and a fortune in built up assests. While she can do whatever she wants, and I have essentialy no say so. While I am not advocating either, I now understand the muder/suicide scene. We havent changed her bipolar sex fiend episodes, other than to get her focused down to screwing women instead of men and women, so I guess thats progress. No matter, I cant stand the sight of her most of the time. Her rants and childish behavior make her seem more like a 12yr old daughter than my 45 yr old wife. Takes a lot of the romantic urges away. The good news is that she doesnt yell or scream at me, more the pouting and silent treatment. If she only knew how I felt about her, or could put away her narcicisim long enough to worry about someone other than herself. If she spent a third of the time she spends on the internet surfing porn and lesbian pick up sites, all my laundry and dishes would be clean and put away. Needless to say those are my jobs when I get home.

All I am doing at this point is thinning out my stuff, getting rid of junk I dont want to move, so that when the time comes, I can toss most all I own in the back of a van and take off with my son. This has cost me so much of my own emotional and physical health, I have no idea how or if I will ever recover to the level I was in years past. If I play it right she can run off to her lawyer/lovers million dollar house and they can leave me be in mine that costs a fraction of that.

My intentions at this time are to hang on till the kid is more independent, maybe 18. Then split up when I cant take anymore. She will be stunned and hurt that I would do such a thing, but once I am done saying what I long to say to her, there will be no love left for me, as I have nearly no love for her now. It would take days to recount the things she has done/not done in the time we have been together. She wont even disagree. I hope she enjoys her miserable existance with whatever lesbian shes wrapped up in.

God this is a sad way to live.
- on September 6, 2009 at 11:09 pm | Reply tra la la
  
  james, please leave her and marry me asap, LOL. i have had to put up with the first 40 years of other people’s incessant childish rages, but, i will NOT tolerate my second half of life being made miserable.
on October 19, 2008 at 1:05 am | Reply Kevin

James,
I really do feel your pain and been through it all. Divorced finally as of Aug 27th. You have to let go. It will not get better until you have the courage to go through with divorce. Get the best attorney that you can and start the process of MOVING ON. You may be a little scared of the thought of being alone. But you are right now! Save your son from any more harm his mothers actions may cause. You both may need counseling or to at least talk to people that have been there and can relate. Even under the current conditions it is hard. Your erasing many years of your life with her. It will get better and better. She will no longer be able to control you and hopefully your son will have a say in where he stays. Do it now while she is in a relationship because it serves as a distraction for her. Been there and done that. I wish you the best of luck and I will check this blog if you need to talk. Do not talk of your intentions just do it! Regain your pride and physical health. Stress kills!!
on October 20, 2008 at 2:49 pm | Reply Helen

Yikes. I’m not bipolar, and neither is my husband, but your comments are wake-up calls to me. You know, it’s not just bipolar spouses who can be selfish and self-absorbed. Reasonably mentally-healthy people can be that way, too. I’m referring to myself, not my husband.

I mean this in all seriousness: Thank you for the reminder that we should continually be asking ourselves if our spouses are happy, and if they are taking too much burden of responsibility. My husband hasn’t complained, but he is not a complainer by nature. I almost wish he were, so that I would know if I were being inappropriate.

So a suggestion for some of you unhappy husbands: have you specifically asked your wives to take more of the burden (e.g., James, about dishes and laundry)? We women can be clueless too about picking up hints. You need to TELL us outright that you want us to help more. If you do it in a non-angry way that shows us that we’re being unfair, we will respond.
on November 11, 2008 at 1:53 am | Reply Love drained sick fool

When is enough to say no more.? How much crap is one to take?
And when it comes to kids is it better to pretend all is well untill they are grown and out the door?
on December 8, 2008 at 6:59 pm | Reply runaway

this bipolar shit is all shit – they know. i don’t care what anyone says. i’m married to a fckin cunt (yes i’m that bitter and full of hate for her) i’ve tried to leave, i have two girls with her – the oldest,an older teen, talked to me and just wants me to stay so bad because of how they feel about their mom. it’s sad. no one is comfortable w/ the woman when she’sa around – if i’m at home during the day alone w/ the kids, all is well and calm and we have fun and relax and just chill. literally -as soon as she walks in the door – everyone is fighting with her, she’s yelling at everyone, the kids are usually crying with her f’ing obnoxious and selfish attitude within a half hour of her walking in the door. HOWEVER…when she’s doing her own thing – she’s happy, normal, calm – as soon as someone challenges her or questions what she is doing there’s a total change in attitude and she goes apeshit. not always loud – but frustratingly confrontational. fuck her. when my kids leave, i will leave.
on January 28, 2009 at 1:21 am | Reply James

THought I would come back to this…. still currently married, wife is still with her lawyer/lover, but claims she they are not having sex. Wife is very good at organizing other peoples things, but lousy at her own. And yes, I have spoken to her about her lack of help, and that mostly falls on deaf ears. She claims that its now only a working relationship, but theres no checks of any consequence coming it. My wife says that this could become a financial benefit to us, but I havent seen it yet. I really dont care, shes at least dealing with ONE other crazy lesbian rather than a bar full of them as has been in the past.

What I have done is, rightly or wrongly, gotten a girlfriend of sorts. Her husband has mental issues and so does my wife. We just spend time together, sort of a mutual support thing. Its not a sexual thing, but we have discussed it. Its helped us both a great deal to talk about our marriages with someone whos in the same situation. She is not divorcing due to her kids, same as me. My wfe is aware of this, and initially encouraged it. I dont give her any details,. but now shes a bit jealous of my new friend, but doesnt have a thing to say about it, considering what I have tolerated over the years. Her husband knows as well, but hes much less tolerant.

I dont know where this will all lead, andI really dont care. At least I feel ike I have an outlet, someone to talk to, and a bit of control in my life.
- on September 6, 2009 at 11:24 pm | Reply tra la la
  
  james- wake up and smell the coffee. don’t you realize her so-called lover is just a front for her lawyer putting you through the ropes when D-day comes?!? ding dong, wake up!!! this is an old legal trick. if you fall for the bait of using her lawyer, she will have the kids in custody so fast, before you have the chance to say, huh? women always get the kids, fair or not. hide/save your money, then go get your own lawyer and start building your kid custody battle now. good lord man, get a grip and leave already. fuck the money, you’ll manage some how, some way… why do you sickly stay and watch the house burn down, instead of running for buckets of water???
on February 2, 2009 at 11:19 pm | Reply Want To Kill Myself

Oh my god. I dont even know where to start. I have been married 2 months now. We had a daughter before we were married. She is 2 years old and the reason I wake up everyday. Seriously I cant even describe the love I feel for her. My wife and I have had problems a long time. It gets worse everyday. We didnt spilt because I cant do that to my little girl. I cant let her be raised with 4 god damn parents. Ya know with the steps. and all. I have never met a more cold hearted, rude, cunt bitch mother fucker in my entire life! I mean, if Satin were to walk in my front door right now and make me choose weather to live with him or my wife, that bitch wouldnt even have time to pack her bags before my foot was kicking her ass out the door. She doesnt do shit. NOTHING!!!! I cook, clean, take care of the dog, the child, anything you can imagine. She works, (like me), and comes home and sits on her ass. If I ask her to make dinner she always has an attitude if she even does it and bitches the whole time. Thats just over dinner. Look, I could go on and on and on for ever. Bottom line is this people. Some women and the most worthless fucking cunt bitches to walk to earth. Any women who doesnt believe that statment and think its rude, your probablly one of them. I have tried all the remedys and crap everone says to try and nothing works. At the end of the day she is still the same old bitch. It really is sad. Im misrable. And you know what im going to do about it. Nothing I love my daughter to much.
- on September 6, 2009 at 11:40 pm | Reply tra la la
  
  i begged and begged my dad to take me out of the torturous hideous demonic home of which lived that evil monster, aka, known as “my mom.” i’m not talking about usual girly mom daughter fights. i’m talking about a diabolical beast that would hunt me out of my room and beat me, spitting , screaming in my face, and then run to my dad and say her daughter was so terrible, with lies upon lies each day. so he would mock me too. i couldn’t go out, i had to get straight “A’s,” i cleaned toilets like cinderella for the evil stepmom, i got locked in a garage for eating too slow, she never comforted me, nor held me. it took a year after age 18 to stop flinching if someone touched me. i still have anxiety. i have never had a soft place to fall, someone to call mommy. to this day, i can still hear her high pitched voice echoing, shreaking, just shreaking over and over. my brothers are now not normal because of her. i wanted to just die by the age of 17. i prayed god to take me away. GET THE FRICKING KIDS OUT AND STOP BEING SO SELFISH!!!!!
on February 2, 2009 at 11:31 pm | Reply Want To Kill Myself

I have just been sitting here staring at the computer after I typed that. Guys! There has to be something we can do here. I feel like the biggest bitch for taking all the shit she dishes out everyday. Im fucking sick of it. HELP!!!!
on February 3, 2009 at 12:06 am | Reply thordora

“If I ask her to make dinner she always has an attitude if she even does it and bitches the whole time”

Assmunch, you have bigger problems than the entire internet can get into.
on March 24, 2009 at 7:56 pm | Reply Out TheDoor

Jenn’s an idiot, as is anyone else who advocates “sitting down and talking” with someone who’s bipolar, has borderline personality disorder, or is paranoid schizophrenic. My ex-wife was all three AND had a form of anorexia. All started developing in her mid-thirties, after more than a decade of marriage, and were in full, torturous swing by 40.

There’s no fucking way that such people will ever listen unless they’re on meds — they are simply not capable of having rational and empathic discussions because they’re realities are too different from yours!

Unfortunately these conditions cause them to avoid meds, because they think their doctors or loved ones are trying to control their minds. If they get on meds, the recidivism rate is high — they drop them because they “feel better now”, and think they no longer need the meds.

Most states provide for parental psych evaluation (in California it’s called a 730 evaluation). Get a good family law attorney and save yourself and your kids. You’re both at risk, emotionally and physically. Don’t let your kids grow up with that kind of marriage/relationship as an example.

I got out and am happily married again (to someone else), and have full custody of my kids. My ex is still nuts and making everyone around her miserable.
- on July 1, 2009 at 3:58 pm | Reply Seeya!
  
  outthedoor, you are the most rational person I have encountered on these quests for like experience – you get so isolated managing a family with these freaks – they take so much, and the self changing of the meds, and the being right all the time, and the knowing everything better than everyone else thing – what a joke. now she wants to fuck with my kids meds 9joint custody0 and -hes special needs and has had a working regimine for years – if she wont give him his stuff or adds more naturopathic ignorance I’m going to insist on court intervention. she tried to get me to take an herb that causes abortions when i was trying to get pregnant because some site said it was good for mentrual issues she is always believeing herself to be omnipotant ands the smallest hint of disagreement causes her to freak i just need to stay sane and far away im sad to be letting go of a dream that her pill taking for a few years meant she would keep it up she is ready for the end of the world but cant keep a single relationship her kids are screwed shes already programming them to be afraid and all i want is to take my son and bail. she can fuck with her miserable husband 0 he gained 200 lbs being with her for 4 years hahaha clue! Thanks for letting me vent, i am scared about the kid thing, but what a relief to read your bits – she is outside the box, that’s for sure!
on July 1, 2009 at 3:50 pm | Reply Seeya!

So, my husbands ex is a fricking wangnut- my own awesome desire to control the world led me to try to befriend her for the last 8 years, which I have spent trying to coparent a special needs kid with this cnt! I have him most of the time since I am stable enough to deal with his needs but man it took me a long time – what people aren’t saying is how awesome they are when they have their shit together and then they start the slide down, what with self adjustoing meds, and naturo-useless special self meds, and emotional attacks to distrack fro m the crazy – I cant take her self righteous demeaning hostile inability to support anyone crap anymore. I am just so sorry i was this entrwined, because now i feel awkward and wary for the attack and know she wont be able to help herself, some big blowup will happen since i’m not bweing her bitch anymore. she has no family, wrote off anyone but my husband due to the kid, and as soon as she decides it was unfair to set some boundaries she’ll be banging away after my time and energy again. i find her negative insulting crap so familiar – when she isnthere i see the pattern and get help as soon as we communicate i doubt it was that bad and forgive forgive forgive i have fantasies about escaping the joint custody she keeps huge secrets, her daughter isnt even her husbands, she thinks i support that kind of lifetime lie – are you fucking kidding/ who does that to someone? how can you trust someone with the ability to lie like that to get what they want? meds be damned if you donbt want to grow up, be a bipolar, you can sacrifice adulthood for dependant blame every day!
on July 4, 2009 at 10:34 pm | Reply How Much Longer?

Thank you…Thank you…Thank you…I’m glad to see that I am not the only one…4th of July and all I wanted us to do was go and watch fireworks…Well she had to set off fireworks of her own before we could get settled to watch…She is abusive both physically and mentally and I say I’m fed up but I’m still here, and I know that I’m only still here for my son. It’s good to hear (only in a supportive way) that others are experiencing the same thing and coping. I can’t see us together past my son’s graduation and I count the time until that day.
- on July 5, 2009 at 1:30 pm | Reply Want to Kill Myself
  
  I had the same thing happen. Except the bitch caused me and my daughter to completely miss the real fireworks show while she made us stay at a friends house to watch theres. Oh and my daughter and I didn’t even get to watch those because she is terrified of being up close to them. I got alot of years until graduation. Hell I got several years till she even starts school. I guess I have a pretty crappy 16 years ahead of me huh? What do I do?????
on July 6, 2009 at 6:07 pm | Reply How Much Longer?

“Want to Kill Myself”…is the last thing you want to do, even if she makes you feel like you want to. Think of this way you do that look at who will be let to raise your child. Man, I know its rough, I’ve been dealing with it for going on 12 years and I don’t see it getting any better. You just thank God for the good days and pray like heck on the bad days…Good luck and hang in there for your kid.
on July 6, 2009 at 11:07 pm | Reply Want to Kill Myself

Yes I know. I would never actually do that. Only because our daughter. But if we didn’t have a daughter I wouldn’t even say that anyway because I would walk right out the door. Actually I would run out the door. And never look back. I couldn’t even imagine her raising our child by herself. She would probably die. Seriously. My wife is the biggeset fuck up to ever walk the planet. I just never saw it while we were first together. Damn that was the worst mistake I ever made! What do you do when she is just being a non stop raging bitch and you have no where to go?
on July 19, 2009 at 3:35 am | Reply Ryan

A lot of you guys seem to have it worse than me, but this seems like a good place to vent. I recently got married and it’s killing me. It’s like the second we said “I do” she decided to become a total bitch. She has stated that she wants kids for the past year, but I have said that I definitely don’t want kids until I’m out of college and have a stable job. She’s illogical and doesn’t think things through. She thinks raising a child is the easiest thing in the world and that it’s all just fun because she loves to babysit. I’ve tried to talk to her about her misconceptions but it falls on deaf ears. She always blames me for everything and gets enraged if I want to spend an hour or two with my friends, even though I only ask like once every two or so weeks. She knows that I’ve battled severe depression since before I knew her, and that I’ve though about, and come very close to attempting suicide, but she doesn’t care. She just wants me to feel guilty about anything and everything so that I’ll be her bitch and so that she can control every aspect of my life. If she does something nice for me, she holds it over my head for weeks. If I do something wrong, she holds it over my head forever. Seriously, in every fight, she’ll bring up things that happened in the first months of our relationship.

As I’ve matured, I’ve realized all the times she’s lied to me, and when she’s probably lied to me. I think she cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship and I know that she completely fictionalized an older brother that lives out of town just to intimidate me from mistreating her, even though I haven’t. I found the proof on our computer. But I would never tell her I know, because she would deny it to her death and it would cause an enormous fight in which I would eventually have to admit I was wrong. She has never admitted she was wrong in our entire 4 years of being together even though she is very often physically abusive. Then I feel guilty for wanting to beat the shit out of her when she hits me in my face repeatedly. I never would, but I would love to put her in her place.

Now things are worse than ever. As I said, she has wanted children for a long time, often threatening to leave me if I don’t get her pregnant, but that’s the only time I have had the strength to stand up against her. She told me that she was pregnant and eventually convinced me that she was telling the truth. I have been very devastated by this. Ever since, when we have sex, she says there’s no point to use protection because she’s pregnant, so I haven’t used it. Now I figured out that she was lying and she wasn’t pregnant, but she planned it all so i would make her pregnant. I still have 4 years of college until I have a degree.I worked my ass off to get into Georgia Tech, one of the hardest engineering schools in the country, and now I’ll probably have to drop out to support the heartless bitch. When I talk about how hard the school is, she just gets pissed and calls me selfish.

Now she uses to pregnant excuse for everything and she’s not even a month in. I can’t bring up that I know or she’ll deny it and there will be a huge fight where I’ll have to admit I’m wrong. and then I’ll have to “earn her trust” again.

We have NO money. I don’t even like kids but I’m going to do what I have to because I know I’m going to love mine. My entire future is ruined because of the selfish cunt. I’m stuck in this hell for over 18 years.

So then I ask her to please not tell our parents yet, because they will be very pissed because we are by no means financially stable, and she agreed. We are home for the weekend and I just learned that she told our parents and then she got pissed at me and stormed out when I got upset about it. In desperation I googled “my wife is a bitch” and I found this place.

another huge problem is that she has heart problems and every time I try to stand up for myself, she says I cause problems. Her valve could potentionally rip and she would die, and she always tells me that I’m killing her. I’m afraid that arguing with her will kill her. I feel so guilty, even though in the back of my head, I know she’s probably lying and that I’m probably not causing her harm, just like she does about everything.

I love her, but I also hate her with all the passion in my soul. I’m so fed up. She tells me that I’m ugly and fat and I will never do better than her. She constantly lets me know that she “drastically lowered her standards” by being with me. She tells me I am a horrible person and that I’m without a doubt going to Hell when I die, even though everyone I know thinks I’m one of the nicest guys in the world and that I treat her really well.

My depression was doing better in the last year but now it’s worse than ever. I definitely won’t commit suicide because now I’ll have to provide for a child, but I would really love to die sometimes.

I just can’t believe I fell into her trap and now my dream of going to a good college and actually doing something with my life is gone because of a stupid, selfish, heartless person.

Sorry to rant so much when other people have worse problems.
on July 19, 2009 at 1:54 pm | Reply Want to Kill Myself

Ryan,

Are you having an affiar with my wife. Because you just fucking described her to me. Your life is exactly like mine all the way down to the kid. Everything. Except school. I was already done with that. I dont have a whole lot of time right now because she is right in the other room but I want to say more to you. By the way how old are you? Just respond so I know your still there? Adios.
- on August 30, 2009 at 3:05 am | Reply Ryan
  
  I’m 21. I wanted to get at least my masters and I’ve been interning every other semester while in college. So I guess I’m in sophomore and junior level classes. that’s why I still have 4 years left.
  
  So it’s been a little over a month since everything went down and things haven’t really gotten better. Now the effects of the first trimester have kicked in and her bitchiness has been amplified. To make matters worse, we are low on money so my friend that goes to school with me moved in to our extra bedroom so, you know, you would assume I’m allowed to talk/associate with him from time to time. wrong. If I so much as converse with him while eating breakfast I’m “ignoring her”. Also I’m apparently horrible at being a supportive husband during pregnancy because I “don’t feel sorry for her enough”. I go to every doctor’s appointment and I’m basically her butler whenever I’m home. It’s like she gets angry because I’m in class until 3:00 and I can’t do shit for her until I get home.
  
  Oh well, I’m getting to a point where I just feel numb to everything she does. I don’t expect to get happiness from her anymore. I go to my friends for that. I go to my friends’ dorm between classes and when I’m home I wait for her to fall asleep and then I hang out with my roommate.
  
  heh… It seems so pathetic after typing that out. I have to wait for my wife to go to sleep and then sneak out of my room to talk to my friend just to escape for an hour or two.
  
  I really hope that this pregnancy makes her mature and that she realizes how horrible she’s treated me. God knows I don’t want to be another statistic and have a child with divorced parents.
on July 23, 2009 at 1:33 pm | Reply Chad

I’m not sure if my problem fits in with the topic. I have been married now for just over 9 years to my second wife. We both have kids about the same age although mine moved a thousand miles away shortly after I remarried so they aren’t in the picture.

My problem sits with my step-daughter and wife. She recently finished high school and is in the National Guard. She didn’t like out house rules so she moved in with her boyfriend within a month of finishing school and turning 18. When she moved out, she left like she was never coming back… burned alot of bridges along the way. And after she was gone, her mail was still coming to our house so we let her keep her house key. One day when everyone was gone, she came in and took some stuff. Nothing expensive, just some change and other things. I had had it at that point and was glad she moved out.

Now, the day after her boyfriend gets shipped off to boot camp. The people they were sharing a house with doesn’t want them there anymore…. so now she needs us and to borrow the same truck she returned in the rain with the windows down… and didn’t put some things back in the truck that was part of the deal for them to use it.

As soon as my wife found out she needed help, of course she came to her rescue and let her use the truck again and let her move back into our home. My wife knows I am still very angry about things missing from our home and the fact that her daughter never has to own up to anything she does and my wife just turns the other cheek and cries asking me why I just can’t get along with her daughter. I keep telling her the reason I am having problems with her daughter is because I have never gotten one apology or ANYTHING through all of this. (Keep in mind that the daughter completely totalled a new car on a side street and never got anything out of it as far as punishment)

I would like a response from anyone else in this predicament I am afraid this won’t end well. Everyone in this situation knows my feelings but still I am the bad guy unless I just let the little ***** do what she wants in out home!
- on August 20, 2009 at 3:59 am | Reply booh bah
  
  the step daughter is just going through some teenage years, that’s all. she will sort herself out. being a teenager is all about selfishness. She is not thinking of anyone else just herself and trying to gain her independence but going the wrong way about it.
  
  The other thing is, would you really be so pissed at her if she was your fleas and blood daughter? you have to admit that people can resent children that are not their own that they have to care for.
  
  you are an adult, she is the child. My advice is to start acting like one
  - on August 20, 2009 at 4:00 am | Reply booh bah
    
    oops kiddies, I meant flesh not FLEAS LOL
- on August 30, 2009 at 2:55 am | Reply Ryan
  
  I’m 21. I wanted to get at least my masters and I’ve been interning every other semester while in college. So I guess I’m in sophomore and junior level classes. that’s why I still have 4 years left.
  
  So it’s been a little over a month since everything went down and things haven’t really gotten better. Now the effects of the first trimester have kicked in and her bitchiness has been amplified. To make matters worse, we are low on money so my friend that goes to school with me moved in to our extra bedroom so, you know, you would assume I’m allowed to talk/associate with him from time to time. wrong. If I so much as converse with him while eating breakfast I’m “ignoring her”. Also I’m apparently horrible at being a supportive husband during pregnancy because I “don’t feel sorry for her enough”. I go to every doctor’s appointment and I’m basically her butler whenever I’m home. It’s like she gets angry because I’m in class until 3:00 and I can’t do shit for her until I get home.
  
  Oh well, I’m getting to a point where I just feel numb to everything she does. I don’t expect to get happiness from her anymore. I go to my friends for that. I go to my friends’ dorm between classes and when I’m home I wait for her to fall asleep and then I hang out with my roommate.
  
  heh… It seems so pathetic after typing that out. I have to wait for my wife to go to sleep and then sneak out of my room to talk to my friend just to escape for an hour or two.
  
  I really hope that this pregnancy makes her mature and that she realizes how horrible she’s treated me. God knows I don’t want to be another statistic and have a child with divorced parents.
on July 28, 2009 at 11:58 pm | Reply Kat

WOW – I am in the midst of the divorce from hell and y’all have made me feel so much better…all these horrible bitches you guys are married to sound exactly like my ex…HUSABAND!! Holy Moses, I am Mother Teresa compared to what you are all married to! He had affairs, then, when I decided I was tired of being the “good girl” and putting up w/his bipolar alcoholism, I had one. Well, you’d think I was the only woman to EVER cheat on a cheater – he up and abandoned me and our 3 kids one day – he had planned it for weeks, then walked out on payday leaving us w/8 bucks in the bank acct. Being broke is a more than fair trade for being rid of him. I wish it had happened sooner. There are times I’m so scared, but at least I can breathe again. The floozy he left his family for dumped his sorry ass after 3 wks and he is now on g/f #3 or #4 and I could care less as long as it isn’t me.
Guys, there is no reason, if she is that crazy and your kids are older, that you can’t get custody. Heck – she might just willingly give them to you. If worse comes to worse, just take the kids and leave. Mental issues are enogh to justify you getting the kids in nearly any court. Do it! Be happy! Save your precious beloved children that you are lovingly sacrificing yourselves for! It can be done! I’m telling you this, and I am a woman who has an ex that would swear an a stack of Bibles that I am Satan’s twin sister!! But really, if they are nuts, and you have good, solid proof, you CAN have your kids AND your life…..REALLY!!
on August 20, 2009 at 3:54 am | Reply booh bah

well. the simple answer is, relationships are messy and so are people.

They are all hard work. I think that the main problem people have with relationships is that they think that the way they are is the right way to be because they have their own values and morality.

When they see that someone is acting different to them, they can’t accept this behavior. But in reality everyone is different and learning to live with one another has always been one of humanities main challenges.

The reality is people are in effect selfish and self oriented. We all want things for ourselves and we all want things to be the way that we want them to be.

But realistically this never happens. The fact is we can’t live alone we need each other as a species to survive and hopefully thrive.

Therefore accepting others faults and working together is the only option we really have.

I often hear this complaint form men, “my girlfriend or wife has multiple personalities or is bi polar etc.”

The fact of the matter is from my experience men don’t seem to be that much more stable than women.

One of the problems that can often occur, is that a man is selfish towards their partner and treats them horribly. Often the man doesn’t think that there is anything wrong with these actions. Men tend to be privileged members of society that think they deserve more power, better incomes and more opportunities than women. they often do not treat women with any kind of respect but they are unaware that there is even anything wrong with this.

I constantly hear men complaining about their female partners mood swings, how they are crazy etc.

The reality is, it’s not the 1800’s anymore and you can’t have your partner locked up for HYSTERIA ( a common psychiatric complaint about women by husbands in the past), and go around and crack onto someone else.

What you need is either to be alone if you can’t handle a woman in your life. Because surely females aren’t going to put up with being casual partners or one night stands forever.

Or start learning how to live with women and just love and appreciate them for who they are. Because believe me men are no piece of cake either
- on October 7, 2009 at 12:43 pm | Reply stumped
  
  Booh bah, you have no idea what you are talking about.
  
  This has nothing to do with ‘normal’ mood swings. We all have those. This has to do with the absurd mood swings we, on this board, are experiencing from our wives. They are not normal and cannot be dealt with. It is one thing to get upset over something and tell your sig. other that you do not like it. It is totally different when the reaction does not fit the circumstance or any circumstance for that matter. There is no excuse for the behavior they exhibit. If a man exhibitted half the behavior my wife has, he would be in jail.
  
  For example, 5 days ago I came home from work and told my wife that I wanted to finish packing for our boy scout campout. I was really excited and wanted to get it done. She immediately cut me off and told me ‘don’t talk to me, it is too stressful’. Therefore I could not talk to her anymore about how or when I would do this activity. I could not tell her I only needed about a half hour or so. This probably does not seem like a big deal to you, but in my house I get all three kids from the moment I walk in the door. She has to be completely away from them. Therefore, scheduling a half hour is a big deal to me and something I needed to talk about. From that point I went to my usual routine and changed out of my work cltohes. As I did this I spent about 10 minutes gathering all the clothes I would need for the trip. Then I went back downstairs. I started to pack a couple of other things when she beckoned me to another room. I went to the other room with a small bag in my hand. As I entered the room I crossed off a couple of things on my list and then sat down. She blew up! She started right in on me about how I wasn’t being nice to her and why didn’t I ask her how her day was instead of telling her I wanted to pack. It quickly escalated from there to her screaming obscenities at me. After about 10 minutes of this she left the room, still livid. As I left the room she turned back and started all over again. This time I am holding a 6mo old baby and she threw a can of pop on the floor and it sprayed on me and the baby. She continued to scream at me, calling me names the whole time. I threatened to call 911 if she got violent. she then threw the phone at my feet, which busted into pieces, ‘go ahead and call 911′ she said. I left the room. She confronted me again about 30-40 minutes later and it all went down again. It was on again off again until she sat down at the foot of the bed at 1 am and we talked. She was still very angry. After about 10 minutes she told me I was not talking to her and she left.
  
  The next day I woke up got both kids off to school, as usual, at the same time as taking care of the baby. My wife slept. I then woke her up so she could take the baby and I could go to work. She refused to take care of the baby. I had to call off work and stay home. The whole day was essentially the same as the night before. She was angry and mean. Any words she exchanged with me were prefaced with obscenities. She taunted me to call 911. Thank god I had the campout with my son for the whole weekend and could be away from her. She went to her aunt’s house with the other kids, mostly because she could not stand being with them for two whole days by herself.
  
  Now it is 5 days later and we still have not talked. She won’t look at me or anything. I tried to be nice a few times, she just threw it in my face.
  
  This all because I told her I needed to pack, instead of ‘How was your day today’?.
  
  This scenario plays out about twice a month. It has gone on for years, long before the third kid came. Sometimes it is not as bad, sometimes worse. I could not count on my hands and toes the number of times she has thrown something at me. I am not sure if it is a good thing that she misses or not. Once she threw a heavy ashtray at me. I ducked and it went right over my head and through a window. She had the nerve to blame me for the broken window because I dodged the ashtray coming at my head.
  
  Booh bah, is this how you act in your home? Do you scream obscenities at your husband and throw things when he does not say the exact right words at the exact right moment in the exact right tone of voice with the exact right expression on his face in the exact right room of the house, etc, etc?
  
  Too bad it is not the 1800’s, then I could have her institutionalized. Of course, we would not have the third child as it would have happened long before that. Probably before the second kid.
  
  This has nothing to do with learning how to live with women, it has to do with learning how to protect yourself and your children from a person who flips between being nice and a stark raving mad lunatic. It is near impossible in a world that protects the person who is a stark raving mad lunatic.
  
  All I can say is if you have not lived it, then you have no idea.
  
  By the way, this is called borderline personality disorder, not bipolar.
on August 27, 2009 at 11:20 pm | Reply Ghost

Wow – I didn’t realize how prevalent this is. I am not sure my wife is bi-polar or not, but have been guessing that’s been the problem for a long time. Problem is, she is a psychologist herself and there’s no way I could ever have that conversation with her. She’s been on and off meds and seen a psychologist – who I think is a quack. Four years and he couldn’t see this being an issue.

I love my wife – I really do. I love my kids. And like others have said, when she is happy and loving me, it’s the greatest feeling. The shitty part is, after everything we’ve been through – over the years..she’ll say something like she’s starting over, or sorry for being a crazy woman, or tells me how much she loves me and I am perfect for her. Only recently do I not pay attention to her. Because 20 minutes later she’ll be upset and screaming about something and how getting married was a mistake. Really. Nothing is ever her fault and no matter how little I do for myself..it’s always that I am not taking care of her needs – that her priorities are getting ignored.

I’ve also experienced – everything is perfect..but say one wrong thing or have the slightest disagreement and she’ll start saying she’s walking out the door. Every day something bothers her or she’s got some kind of ailment – I am supposed to listen and help. Yet, I get laid up in bed once a year….and never have any ailments..and I am told she never is sick and I’m always complaining about something.

I stay in it because I love my kids and I love my wife – and I think she loves me. I, fortunately, have remained very positive and happy about life and do not let this get me down for too long when an ‘incident’ happens. There is too much good in life. Sometimes my patience of Job with her is my curse and my purpose..because I think 95% of the men would have left her already.

I wish I could have the conversation with her about possibly being bi-polar…but that would never fly. Heck, telling her anything that I don’t like from her..no matter how small..would be WWIII. The other day there was a scratch on the floor and I mentioned it…not blaming anyone, just an observation. She called me an asshole because she thought I was blaming her. When I explained I wasn’t, she broke her work-out am/fm radio…slamming on the floor.

I know the right answer..but similar to everyone else..the kids. The kids..both are very young – 4 and 1. I can’t be without them..and I just know custody wouldn’t be with me

JM
on September 9, 2009 at 6:47 pm | Reply stanley

Stop loving them!!!..Sounds easy but true my wife is a bi-poloar bitch from Ukraine, thinks that she is hotter than hell yet the most insecure person I have ever met in my life!!! My solution is a rather immature one BUT IT WORKS!!! Understand this one thing U R MEN!!! And I do not mean that in a demeaning way I may seem like a woman hater when I say this but FUCK IT!!! Everything that women do men do better..the best chef’s are men, best clothing designers men..so the best ASSHOLES..MEN whatever u r recieving from ur wife give it back to her 10 fold..do not do it in front of ur kids tho..my wife has done everything that I have read on this site but it’s when I really dug deep into her character and showed her what I and everyone else thinks about her is when her ears perked up…drive her to the point of suicide..make her rue the day that she met u..she has been doing it long enough GIVE IT BACK!!!..It’s not until I started showing her how big of an ASSHOLE men can be things started to cool down…some of u r in or have been in the military know that u stay in the battle till the war is over..Under no circumstances do u hit her!!!Lure her into hitting u..then call the cops…keep up this game and u will break her!!! DO NOT BACK DOWN!!! BE a HITLER TYPE ASSHOLE!!!… and she won’t know what to do. Change up the dynamincs of the relationship..be nice then for no reason at all be a complete and total DICK..TRUST ME IT WORKS!!! the wives that we have are bullies..she wants to be promicuos aloow it and act like u don’t care invite her to a swingers party and let her fuck all the guys/girls that she can but for no reason whatsoever do u ever show that u care..remember this is war with someone who suffers from narcissitic and borderline personality disorder the more u tear away at her self esteem the better chance u have of destroying her..u guys say u hate ur wives…PROVE IT!!!
on September 17, 2009 at 9:12 pm | Reply Catfish

Wow!! I’me not alone.While I didn’t find out WHY I do not leave,I can see that there are plenty of men in my shoes.Mine isn’t a child problem.It’s a grandchild problem.They are all step-grandkids,so, they have been held over my head alot.I have the usual problems that everybody’s bitching about,except sex.She isn’t having sex with ANYBODY! I haven’t told her,but,after8+ years of physical and lots of mental abuse,I have no desire for sex either.This woman has taken everything from me that makes me Human. I miss life.I do not want much.No money. No fancy house/car.Cool job. A smile. One fucking smile.ALL that I want is a smile.Is that too much to ask for? Or expect?
on October 11, 2009 at 8:01 pm | Reply teddy

wow. now i see it aint just my wife that seems to be a nutcase. she left recently, going to live at a cousin’s house which is a total dump. she wants our 3.5 yr son to stay there on the weekends. i dont want him there without me.

we have been married since nov. 2003 and things have been like a roller coaster. she hasnt been to see any shrink so i dont really know what is wrong with her but personality disorder sounds about right. very bad temper that can ignite at the drop of a hat. you should hear her voice change when she gets pissed. she is a bully for sure. she has thrown the tv remote about 20 times and its a wonder it hasnt shattered into a million pieces. she slams the door like shes trying to pull it off the hinges, then acts like nothing happened an hour later. she has punched and kicked the walls, you name it she has done it except for hitting me in the face. she has punched me in the arm many times. yup, and she fights an eating disorder. hasnt been really a normal mother to our son, i am the one that got up with him since he was an infant. she usually acts like it is a chore to give him a bath. i’ll give her a little credit though, she is a good teacher and can be really nice to him at times. also, she wont get out of bed in the morning to save her life. this really urks me…

sad part i do actually still love her, but she claims she doesnt love me anymore. my feelings are really mixed, as i am tired of the bitching and the attitude and i worry about her abusing our son someday. he tells people “my mommy is mean to my daddy”…even he sees it. she cant tolerate a tantrum from him anymore. its amazing i even have any feeling left for her after all this time.

now i hear she punched a wall where she is staying because someone pissed her off.

can people like this be treated or is there no hope for them at all? i wonder if i should try to make things right with her if she has these problems, or just let the marriage dissolve. she may let me have full custody for all i know.
on October 22, 2009 at 10:28 pm | Reply Michael

I am convinced my wife is a bitch after 8 years of marriage my wife dodges any financial responsibilities and she can only interact with our son for limited time before she cant handle it
any longer she has done this since he was a infent.

She has a hard time holding relationships from family to work people this has been difficult and uncomfortable during holidays and events.

She is gone alot gambling most weekends she see’s the family for only a hour or 2. she sees nothing wrong with this
I found the more push her on these family related issues she defends herself with selfish replies.

She takes her xanax daily and the days that she is home she just sleeps with no interaction with the family.

My 6 year old son does not even question were mom is any longer my son looks at me for all activities, I am very thankful and I love my son and I would not trade the time I spend with him for anything.

I have never met such a selfish bitch in my life
on October 25, 2009 at 7:38 pm | Reply Dan

Ah, the bi-polar spouse. From doing alot of research and reading others posts at various sites i have found that not just the wives but many husbands have the exact same issues. My wife of 19 years is soon to be getting the divorce talk this week. I finally decided to get out while i can, if i don’t then my physical and mental health will continue to suffer. She has had bi-polar tendencies since the first years of marriage. But the last 6 years have been absolute emotional and financial hell. We have two kids 19 and 16. I am hoping that the 16 year old will decided to live with me until at least a couple of years. 6 years ago my wife started making new friends, which i thought was fine. You know, give her some alone time and people she could relate to.

All it ended up giving her was an addiction to cocaine/crack. Been to Rehab, also hospitalized 3 occasions for suicidal thoughts where she was diagnosed bipolar II. Also around that time she began hanging around with a few younger people she worked with of which one guy she worked with ended up going to jail for robbing a convenience store while strung out on drugs.

Then behind my back she writes to the guy in prison about how she loved him and that she wanted to be with him, on top of sexually rated writings, she started to send him money at times (not just hers she earned, mine too), until he got out of prison.
Once he was out, he got a job and soon went back to finish his original sentence for stealing and pawning equipment from his employer. Yeah, real smart fella. Then this continued again behind my back, until this past June he was released again.

She was always back and forth in emotional affairs with other men on and off, probably physical ones too. However getting her to admit one is a different story. She has stolen money from my bank account (forging checks), charged minutes to my debit card 100 and 200 bucks at a time, has pawned things around the house, a tv, an old computer, jewlery, and a $1000 guitar setup that belonged to my 18y/o SON! This bitch has absolutely lost her mind, and at the flip of the switch. “What’s wrong with you?” Like i am the one with no clue whatsoever.

Jeez, i still get dumbfounded to this day as to how someone cannot remember any indiscretion they commit. I realize not all people with bipolar are this way. I now a couple of acquaintances that have fairly normal marriages with the occasional setbacks. But i think in extreme cases similar to mine, it is either divorce and try to make the rest of your life bearable or be miserable and financially destitute the rest of your life.

You can’t help someone like this or change them, they have to want to help themself much like someone simply addicted to a drug or gambling, or any addiction for that matter. Most of all i hate the disease that has taken away the one my children and myself have loved all these years unconditionally. My biggest hope is that my wife will eventually get right with her meds and take them like she is supposed to, and be happy with someone one day. Unfortunately, it will never be with me again, i refuse to take that chance for my own health and well being.
on October 31, 2009 at 1:52 am | Reply J

Holy Crap! I just googled my wife is a bitch and it is like the Chronicles of Narnia, a magic door that lets me know that I am not crazy and that some women are fucking asshole, borderline, bipolar, whatever ASSHOLE! I am so exhausted I dont know how well I can write, but I’ll be back to say what I really want. My brothers a shrink and he says my wife is borderline, catch phrase, I hate you- don’t leave me. And that does about as good of a job as getting a five gallon bucket and filling with water and saying “This is what the ocean is like..”
Here is my vent, and pardon me, I don’t even cuss much, but this fucking asshole has drove me well off the edge, off the cliff and into a pit of hell. I have a crazy, abusive, controlling father- but she blows him out of the water! She hates everything and everybody. She wants to tear me from anything I enjoy or love. She is absolutely heartless and cold, and to top it off is a fucking cheater. I loathe hypocrisy and she is forging new ground. Because she is hot and is great in bed and I am a total idiot, we now have 2 kids and one more on the way in 3 years! I know- Vasectomy… Yes I will do it now dammit, but I was looking forward to divorcing her as soon as these two grew up like maybe one more year, because she can be a good mom sometimes when she is not consumed with selfishness. I know she is genuinely mentally ill. I know that it must suck to know that you suck as bad as she does and to not be able to control yourself because ANGER IS YOUR GOD! 99.9% of the time, it is not to blame at all, never been wrong, never made a mistake and of course yours truly is 100% to blame. What a fucking bitch!!! You guys all have spoken the truth up above- What fucking assholes! Mean as shit, cold as liquid nitrogen and proud and smug as a fucking idiot should be. I have a masters degree and this idiot country bitch with her associates (no offense to anyone, all education is good) tries to tell me shit as if she has a clue about anything. Did you all know that psychology was NOT a science and was made up by Freud? Yeah… and that assholes like me, a member of Mensa, is just insecure about being so stupid and that is why I went to school for so long, to make up for how stupid I am. What I am is a sex freak, and I like freaky women and she absolutely qualifies. I let my achilles heel bring me to my knees and she is the executioner. She uses sex as nothing but a power play. I am not sure she likes men at all. Her outrageous hatred of lesbians is very suspect to me. She doesn’t even know a lesbian- I don’t give two shits if a friend of mine is gay- so what? Who fn cares? If someone is cool and you can laugh and shit who cares if you don’t share the same sexual preference? Not me! So why HATE lesbians, unless you secretly fear that you are one. She HATES my family so much. I have a very close family. My brothers and I used to see each other several times a year, always laughing and having a great time and now they arent even welcome at my house that I paid for! FUCK HER! They hate her guts. I can NEVER let on about that or she gets insane. Both my bros are doctors and she just shits all over them. My Mom is totally sweet and nice and rich as shit and she hates her for no reason except that she does things for me that I could not afford, no strings attached. My step dad is a very famous author and she only shits on him when she looses absolute control because she is so delusional she thinks she will get some of his loot. What a fucking idiot! I swear, I have never hated a human being in my life before I met her, but I think I may actually hate her. I am musician, I used to make six figures doing what i love and had a great life. Now I dont make shit because she has driven all my clients away by being so fucking controlling. I am scared to answer my phone. SHe is a bitch to my kids sometimes and I mean a damaging mfer. I know I must leave her, but I am so scared of her getting custody because she is very good at putting up a front. I have had problems in the distant past, never with the law but with drugs and just living sloppy. Oh God, how did I ever do this to myself? I knew it too but I just did it anyway. If I hear “you are such a piece of shit, just have your fucking pity party” one more fucking time!!!! Any how– Vent over
on November 7, 2009 at 3:59 am | Reply bulletproof

My wife (of 18 years–I am the sorriest shit in the world) is Dr Jekyll and Mr. Fuckin Hyde. I don’t know anymore whether I am coming or going. J, Bro, me and my best friend Ryan are astounded at the similarities we see on this sight with you and many others. My wife completely disrespects me even though I make 6 figures, put her and our seven children (I’m a pussy-whipped sexhound) in a 3500 sq ft home on 2 acres of prime damn real-estate that cost me $20,000/acre and 260,000 in South Georgia Dollars to build! She gets to stay at home and sleep until 11 in the morning and gets to be right all the fucking time!!! I’m no pushover, I spent 10 years in the Army eating dirt and gunpowder, but I am sooo in love with that woman’s pussy it’s Biblically appalling. I mean, I’m a fine-ass fella; I’ve got ladies coming on to me all the time, some i work closely with insinuating constantly about the amazing sexual things they’d like to do to me, but I pine for this BITCH’s p. WTF?

Listen, I’m slightly buzzing from the Jager, but I’m a Traditionalist, a Constitutionalist, even a Conservative but this woman is the absolutely most convoluted selfish individual I have ever met in my life, yet I can’t let go!!!!! I couldn’t have been more dumb-ass in my selection of her to be my “lifepartner”. She comes from a broken home where her Father was an alcoholic and her Mother an unforgiving Bitch raising 3 girls; and she was the middle child! Story of my life, I can’t pick anything that doesn’t come better somewhere else!! Cars, TV’s, DVD players, hell even my house was contracted to a sorry-ass who tried to play me; but most of all, my taste in women. I’m amazed I’m not some crackhead sucking AIDS-infested bananas in a back alley for my next fix. Grace of God surely. I am wont for debasement, a sado-masochist of the most confusing sort!

I digress. Her Mother taught her quite efficiently how to live a bitter distrusting life. The crazy thing is that her Mother now has some concerns over her emotional stability but I just want to remind her that the apple doesn’t fall far from the fuckin tree! I DISTINCTLY recall this crazy woman I’m married to crying in the bathroom about how she didn’t want to “become her Mother”…hello! Far be it for me to point out the fuckin obvious but “Welcome to the Show, Psycho Girlfriend”! And here I bounce between “I’m to blame” and “Who the hell is this psychotic bitch?” Seriously, I don’t know what this voodoo is, but it possesses me to a fanatic degree, even when I hate her!

But then suddenly she’s right as rain and is possessed with such an overwhelming desire for me that she’s clawing at me every chance she gets, but by then I am so completely damaged from her shevil, evil, Devil-woman, Medusa reign of terror that I become a fuckin sexually autistic freak-a-zoid. I’ve never felt so dysfunctional in my life. I want to possess the Bitch in my arms and take what I desire but I shy from the pleasant valley sunday freak-a-zoid. Surely this is a reason to drown in alcohol! How is it that she needs Psychiatric attention but I’m the one fearing the need for it?

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